I’m so confused. I’ve been with my partner a year. My ex husband was abusive (verbally and physically) and I was single for several years since then before meeting my partner. My partner is usually kind and gentle, very laid back. He is encouraging and supportive. He never usually puts me down is not remotely controlling. However, he does have a tendency to be a little grumpy/snappy at times, occasioannly over reacting, usually if he feels I’m criticising.
Tonight I’d felt he was thoughtless. I tried to bring it but I’m a jokey kind of way. It wasn’t a huge deal. He snapped and stormed off to bed. I probably should have left it, but I hate unresolved conflict and felt he had over reacted so I went to try and talk to him. He was clearly quite upset about it, said our relationship clearly wasn’t working, that I never wanted to leave the house or go anywhere and so I said he should leave. (We don’t live together) he refused. I went away and then came back a few minutes later to ask him to talk to me or leave. I probably should have left it, but he got angry, screamed at me that I was a cnt, a fucking cnt, a mad c*nt and I said again he should leave.
I went and sat in the kitchen while he got his stuff and left.
I’m not really sure what to think tbh. I know name calling is a red flag, but is it possible for someone to do this and it not escalate? I know we all get angry at times, but I can’t imagine calling names like that during an argument.
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Lifealmostbeginning · 12/01/2019 01:54
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