HELLO EVERYONE, taken a while to get onto one of these things but its probably time before I go crazy.
My fiances ex wife is straight from hell.
We have been together for over 4 years and are expecting our 2nd child together. His ex wife has been nothing but DIFFICULT and TERRORIZING and we have literally been living our lives like what will she do next for this long. sad
Where to start? First she took their 3 children to another country and with held contact from them stating she would only let him talk to them if he gave her money, all the while telling the children that he did not love them and wanted a new family instead of being with or talking to them. He asked her to apply for child support repeatedly and she refused.
After finding out about our relationship she just lost it completely, she spread rumors about me, tried to add me on social media pretending to be men to try show my partner that I am a cheater.
She would tell him if he wanted to talk to the kids he had to leave our home so that I was not present and would only allow him to talk about certain things and make sure she could be seen the entire time.
She did not limit herself to sending photos of herself to him with the kids or even alone and still using his last name as well as telling people that they are still married.
Before you ask HE ONLY KEPT THE CONTACT HE HAD FOR THE CHILDREN they were 8,7 and 5 during this time. They would cry out for him and were so so happy when they got to talk to him.
Fast forward to my pregnancy with our son, and she told him that my son would not survive the delivery. I should note that they were back in the same country by the time I was due to give birth and YES she was still saying that I was not pregnant and there was not way we could have a child together.
The day after our son was born she dropped the kids to our door and left. Not too long after was NYE and she bought the kids to us and then called later to speak with them saying she was at the airport and would be back in 2 weeks. During this time my father was sick and sadly passed away. She did not care that the children has to be present during all of this.
After schooling in another country for 3 years on the first week they started school she left to go away but there was no one else to look after the kids so who did she turn to but me... I should also note she couldn't ask me directly but had to go through my partner. OF COURSE I WONT SAY NO BECAUSE ITS NOT THE CHILDREN FAULT.
So here I was taking them to the first week at a new school in a country they are not all that familiar with while shes off and STILL BAGGING ME to anyone who will listen.
FINALLY the child support it gone ahead with but she refuses to tell IRD that we see the kids at all even though they come to our house EVERY FRIDAY until Monday morning. WITH NO CLOTHING because she does not want to send them with anything, for the only reason that that is THE RIGHT THING TO DO. She would not admit we cared for them because it would cut the amount of money she would receive from Child Support.
She accused me of beating her children and spread rumors about me and my partner saying as well that he is not the father of our child as well as talking badly about me to the children. She has never hidden her hate for me from them.
I asked to meet her many times but she refused to and the kids would even ask us why she was so mean to me or made them feel bad for liking me. We have always told the kids not to worry about the adult stuff and not to worry about what mean things mum says.
Im just at my whits end. She wont stop, she recently went overseas for two weeks and did not even tell us until the day before. She could not drop the kids off herself and so her mother did and we were given a schedule from them as to what we needed to do with the children!!!
She did not bother to call the kids until while she was gone.
When she came back we dropped the kids to her and have not seen them since. That was 4months ago.
It is now going through court as she has got a protection order against us. This happened because after 4 years she saw us together in public and got mad and came rushing over yelling at me in front of alot of people... I stood up and knocked her out.
Now I know that wasn't the best idea BUT IT FELT GREAT!!
So hence the protection order.. but the things she stated it was for were PURE LIES. She does not realize how stupid she looks and with her latest tirade im just done. After telling people I am a threat to her and what not and she feels scared and im the vengeful one she has posted on her social media that I always sent the kids to bed without any dinner when they were at our home.
If this was true SHE STILL SENT THEM EVERY WEEKEND... or when there was no one else to watch them and she wanted to party.
Am I the only one who has to deal with this?? And also what do I do.
I know shes an complete idiot and needs a life but I think its the fact she says all these things about me to others and I cant sitck up for myself.
I know i was nothing but good to those kids, they have full wardrobes at our home and it was myself who purchased school shoes for them because theirs were falling apart, me who cut finger and toe nails that were disgustingly long and combed all the nits out until there were none left . Even though mum always has her nails done and hair done professionally.
Seriously does anyone else deal with this! AND HOW!!!
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Mali93 · 12/01/2019 01:42
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