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Shouting at me and calling me names because I won't let his dogs come round. Is this normal?

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DIYDoldrums Fri 11-Jan-19 22:13:37

DP's dogs shit, piss and vomit indoors. Regularly. In my last rental property I had to pay £300 to get the carpet cleaned when leaving.

I've bought a house which is a new build and brand new. DP has his own house. We don't live together. I have said from the start that they can't come here. Mostly because I have DC's and they are a health hrisk. He's gone off one tonight, shouting and swearing at me that I'm selfish, a bad mother and getting back together when we split up was a mistake. That I expect the world to revolve around me. I am not compromising on this. I compromise in other stuff but I'm not backing down in this. AIBU?

XmasPostmanBos Fri 11-Jan-19 22:14:56

LTB for good this time.

MyKingdomForBrie Fri 11-Jan-19 22:15:46

LTB without a seconds doubt. He sounds abusive.

AnyFucker Fri 11-Jan-19 22:16:07

Why are you with him ?

PurpleWithRed Fri 11-Jan-19 22:17:14

He’s right, getting back together was a big mistake. Dump him and his badly trained dogs and move on.

MrsGriff8 Fri 11-Jan-19 22:17:40

Nope, YANBU. I have a dog (100% house trained) and ALWAYS ask permission to take her anywhere, even places she's been before. If she was likely to pee or anything else I wouldn't even ask. Your house, your rules. Tell him to piss off

missmouse101 Fri 11-Jan-19 22:17:58

You really need to ask? Do not put up with this. I suggest you call it a day with this vile man.

snitzelvoncrumb Fri 11-Jan-19 22:18:17

There is a very simple solution.

LovingLola Fri 11-Jan-19 22:19:14

Why do you even have to ask if you are being unreasonable??
Why are you infiictng this man on your children?

DioneTheDiabolist Fri 11-Jan-19 22:20:24

Getting back together with him was a huge mistake OP. Dump the lazy, abusive minger for good and leave him to wallow in dog mess.envy

SpinneyHill Fri 11-Jan-19 22:20:34

Not wanting dog shit, piss and puke in your new house and around your kids is normal.
Thinking you should have a right to fuck up someones house is not reasonable or normal.
Kicking off about not being allowed to fuck up someone else's house is abusive arsehole behaviour.

Singlenotsingle Fri 11-Jan-19 22:20:55

What a nasty piece of work. LTB and good riddance.

MorrisZapp Fri 11-Jan-19 22:21:06

Christ that's disgusting. Time to take out the trash.

BollocksToBrexit Fri 11-Jan-19 22:21:10

Who the fuck does he think he is? Throwing a tantrum because you want your home to be clean for your kids. LTB Life's too short to waste it on abusive arses like him.

coppercolouredtop Fri 11-Jan-19 22:22:16

no brainer!! i love my dog but he is housetrained! my god! tell him to fuck off with his dogs.

C0untDucku1a Fri 11-Jan-19 22:22:53

He is absolutely right. Getting back together was a bad idea. Dump him.

Theweasleytwins Fri 11-Jan-19 22:25:36

So you are a bad mother because you dont want dog shit near your children...?

Longdistance Fri 11-Jan-19 22:25:45

He’s trying to bully you, and grind you down. Luckily, you sound savvy enough to tell him to fuck off!

Schmoobarb Fri 11-Jan-19 22:27:58

He sounds vile. Bin!

WhoKnewBeefStew Fri 11-Jan-19 22:28:08

I love dogs, I have two but I would be horrified if they made a mess on my carpet, let alone a brand new one in my dp new house!

Yanbu! And the fact he speaks to you like that as a result is reason enough to agree with him about it being a bad idea to get back together and fuck him off

MsMustDoBetter Fri 11-Jan-19 22:29:16

You're obviously independent, you don't need to put up with his dogs shit or his shit. Finish it, you don't owe him anything.

I hope that your new home brings you happiness and peace. Good luck!

CrazySheepLady Fri 11-Jan-19 22:32:33

Tell him and his dirty dogs to go on a very long walk and not bother coming back. How dare he speak to you like that!

Eatmycheese Fri 11-Jan-19 22:32:35

The dogs aren't really the issue

He is.
Dump and fucking run

ILoveMaxiBondi Fri 11-Jan-19 22:32:53

OP (and anyone else who needs to hear this) you do not share life, home, bed, bus seats, office space, or oxygen with ANYONE who calls you names. Anyone. If they are calling you names they are abusing you. Doesn’t matter if it’s on the bus, at work, or at home. Name calling is the sign of someone you should not be near. Having sex with them does not change that. Make that a rule to live your life by and you will have far healthier relationships.

gamerchick Fri 11-Jan-19 22:36:50

How are you a bad mother for not wanting dogs shitting and pissing in the house? confused what's with the puking, is there something wrong with them?

Anyroad tell him to stay home, anyone that goes on like that needs to be binned.

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