Married man?

[RealEyes]

So the guy I mentioned in my last post “WhatsApp” turns out he’s married. He’s tried to deny it, says it’s “complicated” and they are “separated but living together for their kid” she has all her profile pictures as them both.

Why are guys such dicks, why can’t they be honest.

[BeepBeepBop1]

Its not all men but tell her, block him and move on ... what a twat. Hope you're okay x

[MissConductUS]

Fortunately it's not a universal trait among men, but it's hard to imagine a woman doing the same thing.

Sorry. How far did things go with him? I didn't see your other thread.

[Sexnotgender]

What a knob.

[MumsyJ]

Oh no! He's such a dick head, block him!

[RealEyes]

We were together 4 months, we were exclusive (so I thought or so he said)

I asked him if he was single, it's because of digging on his Instagram I found her.

[ReaganSomerset]

Personally, and plenty would disagree with me, I would send her a message. She can ignore it if she wants but it will make her a bit more wary and she deserves to know her DH is actively looking for an affair.

You could even put it in terms of, 'Hey, my DB says you're separated but I wanted to check...'

[RealEyes]

I have thought about sending her a message. As if that was me, I would want to know.

But I don't want to cause her pain or look like it's revenge.

[RedWineIsFabulous]

Step away.

Step away as quick as you can and as far as you can.

No contact and move on with your life

[Orange6904]

Yeah he's giving you the usual lines. Delete, block and run.

[RealEyes]

I can see his lies, he knows I know the truth and he's worried I'll tell her

[misskiki69]

I would definitely tell her. She deserves to know he cheated.

[RealEyes]

What would I say to her? I don't want to get into a conversation with her.

Do I send proof?

[BeepBeepBop1]

Just tell her your sorry to have to message but you felt she needed to know the truth that for the past 4 months you were in a relationship with her husband and he told you he was single. I would offer her the chance to reply but reiterate the fact you were lied to as well x

[RealEyes]

@BeepBeepBop1 I'll need to give her facts as he'll lie his way out of it.

I'll send her a message now. Wish me luck

[BeepBeepBop1]

Good luck ... poor you and poor her x

[misskiki69]

Good for you. Hope it goes ok. X

[donnas146]

I’ve been in this situation I met a man at a pub one night I was 19 at the time and he was slightly older, handsome and seemed genuine. I looked at his fb the next day and seen he had kids. Asked him and he said yes he has kids with an EX. 6 months in I found out he was living with her his next excuse was only living together till he finds somewhere to live. Then a year in my friend found out they were together as she found his “ex’s” Facebook ( he had nothing of her on his fb) he came clean and I ended it and told his gf it was the weirdest thing ever she spoke to me like he was a child. I told her he had lied to me and we had been together for a year and screenshotted messaged between us and she replied “ oh no not again he’s so naughty he’s done this before” honestly the strangest woman ever. I then blocked him and never spoke to him again, was curious one day and found out they are now married 🤦🏻‍♀️I feel sorry for her and so glad I got him out of my life.

[RealEyes]

@donnas146 that's terrible! Why did she put up with that????

He's trying to tell me they aren't together.

If they weren't together, she wouldn't have pictures of them both on her social

[AFistfulofDolores1]

Are you really contacting her because she needs to know?

Or are you trying to get back at him?

[Donkdonkgoo]

Out of all the men I know, Im confident three wouldn't wander (one being a brother) the rest either have had an affair or I've seen signs that makes me think they would or I'm highly suspicious of.

[RealEyes]

@AFistfulofDolores1 so she knows.

I'm not angry at him I'm angry at me for believing his lies

[ReaganSomerset]

I would just message and say what has happened. You could send proof if asked and if you wanted, but giving the warning is better than nothing at all.

[RealEyes]

She's asked for my number. Do I give her it??

[BeepBeepBop1]

I would you can block her if needed ... did she say anything c

[Wotev]

Yes. She'll confirm whether they're together or not.