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RealEyes Fri 11-Jan-19 20:14:00

So the guy I mentioned in my last post “WhatsApp” turns out he’s married. He’s tried to deny it, says it’s “complicated” and they are “separated but living together for their kid” she has all her profile pictures as them both.

Why are guys such dicks, why can’t they be honest.

BeepBeepBop1 Fri 11-Jan-19 20:17:55

Its not all men but tell her, block him and move on ... what a twat. Hope you're okay x

MissConductUS Fri 11-Jan-19 20:18:39

Fortunately it's not a universal trait among men, but it's hard to imagine a woman doing the same thing.

Sorry. How far did things go with him? I didn't see your other thread.

Sexnotgender Fri 11-Jan-19 20:19:21

What a knob.

MumsyJ Fri 11-Jan-19 20:37:24

Oh no! He's such a dick head, block him!

RealEyes Fri 11-Jan-19 20:59:26

We were together 4 months, we were exclusive (so I thought or so he said)

I asked him if he was single, it's because of digging on his Instagram I found her.

ReaganSomerset Fri 11-Jan-19 21:02:15

Personally, and plenty would disagree with me, I would send her a message. She can ignore it if she wants but it will make her a bit more wary and she deserves to know her DH is actively looking for an affair.

You could even put it in terms of, 'Hey, my DB says you're separated but I wanted to check...'

RealEyes Fri 11-Jan-19 21:14:33

I have thought about sending her a message. As if that was me, I would want to know.

But I don't want to cause her pain or look like it's revenge.

RedWineIsFabulous Fri 11-Jan-19 21:40:31

Step away.

Step away as quick as you can and as far as you can.

No contact and move on with your life

Sausage101 Fri 11-Jan-19 21:43:22

Yeah he's giving you the usual lines. Delete, block and run.

RealEyes Fri 11-Jan-19 22:38:40

I can see his lies, he knows I know the truth and he's worried I'll tell her

misskiki69 Fri 11-Jan-19 22:47:42

I would definitely tell her. She deserves to know he cheated.

RealEyes Fri 11-Jan-19 22:51:04

What would I say to her? I don't want to get into a conversation with her.

Do I send proof?

BeepBeepBop1 Fri 11-Jan-19 22:53:15

Just tell her your sorry to have to message but you felt she needed to know the truth that for the past 4 months you were in a relationship with her husband and he told you he was single. I would offer her the chance to reply but reiterate the fact you were lied to as well x

RealEyes Fri 11-Jan-19 22:56:39

@BeepBeepBop1 I'll need to give her facts as he'll lie his way out of it.

I'll send her a message now. Wish me luck

BeepBeepBop1 Fri 11-Jan-19 22:58:17

Good luck ... poor you and poor her x

donnas146 Fri 11-Jan-19 23:00:34

I’ve been in this situation I met a man at a pub one night I was 19 at the time and he was slightly older, handsome and seemed genuine. I looked at his fb the next day and seen he had kids. Asked him and he said yes he has kids with an EX. 6 months in I found out he was living with her his next excuse was only living together till he finds somewhere to live. Then a year in my friend found out they were together as she found his “ex’s” Facebook ( he had nothing of her on his fb) he came clean and I ended it and told his gf it was the weirdest thing ever she spoke to me like he was a child. I told her he had lied to me and we had been together for a year and screenshotted messaged between us and she replied “ oh no not again he’s so naughty he’s done this before” honestly the strangest woman ever. I then blocked him and never spoke to him again, was curious one day and found out they are now married 🤦🏻‍♀️I feel sorry for her and so glad I got him out of my life.

misskiki69 Fri 11-Jan-19 23:00:33

Good for you. Hope it goes ok. X

RealEyes Fri 11-Jan-19 23:02:44

@donnas146 that's terrible! Why did she put up with that????

He's trying to tell me they aren't together.

If they weren't together, she wouldn't have pictures of them both on her social

AFistfulofDolores1 Fri 11-Jan-19 23:08:30

Are you really contacting her because she needs to know?

Or are you trying to get back at him?

Donkdonkgoo Fri 11-Jan-19 23:16:01

Out of all the men I know, Im confident three wouldn't wander (one being a brother) the rest either have had an affair or I've seen signs that makes me think they would or I'm highly suspicious of.

RealEyes Fri 11-Jan-19 23:20:10

@AFistfulofDolores1 so she knows.

I'm not angry at him I'm angry at me for believing his lies

ReaganSomerset Fri 11-Jan-19 23:54:46

I would just message and say what has happened. You could send proof if asked and if you wanted, but giving the warning is better than nothing at all.

RealEyes Sat 12-Jan-19 10:15:29

She's asked for my number. Do I give her it??

BeepBeepBop1 Sat 12-Jan-19 10:17:04

I would you can block her if needed ... did she say anything c

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