Well - sorry I have namechanged for this as I think dh might be reading my posts ! I am an old and regular mner though !
well - here I am - married almost 14 yrs, been with him since university (almost 20 yrs) - 1 dd almost 7 , and I am biting my tongue not to just come out and say I want out !
What's wrong ? Well - there's the sex - and now there is the not really LIKING him very much as well ! He's just been away for 2 weeks with work and d'you know what - I loved it - didn't miss him for one second and I really resent the fact that he's back !
The sex - well - he has never really had a very high sex drive - we were each others first and only (to my knowledge anyway) - and even when trying to conceive he turned me down loads of times as he was tired or stressed. I think I am storing up a load of resentment from back then. Once I was pg he basically didn't come near me again until last Xmas (dd was 6) when he engineered a weekend away without dd and said he wanted to do it. He did the same a few months later - so we have had sex twice in the last 7 yrs !
I used to want to do it a lot more - but he has pretty much killed off my interest - although I did get a Rabbit a few years back and only then discovered what all the fuss about sex was !
Anyway - he is really arsey and stroppy at the moment - always shouting at dd and contradicting my parenting ! He is of the sergeant major school - whereas I am desperately trying to work out what makes my lovely sensitive little girl tick !
Well - that's it really - we are moving house soon and I have been on the verge of calling the whole thing off - but we have exchanged now - so are committed.
Just don't know what to do !
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So - I am biting my tongue to try and stop myself announcing that I want to split up with dh !
LucyLamb · 25/06/2007 20:29
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