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mate's exdh accusing her son of abusing their dd

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Ulysees · 24/06/2007 22:50

He's an absolute nutball. Allsorts gone on in the past, he's been violent, emotionally abusive etc... He's trying to bring up the dd to be part of his strict religion, so much going on. He hassles mate by ringing and texting as does his 3rd wife - he's 35 or so by the way. Latest, he interviews the dd by video and gets her to admit his ex step son has been abusing her. It's all tosh but he's desperate to get custody. Poor mate had dd taken off her but has her back now though it's still going through court. I'm in shock and so sad for her. She's had nothing but grief for years
I just hope they see through him and he gets done for time wasting.

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fireflyfairy2 · 24/06/2007 22:56

The poor woman.

Did he ask the girl any leading questions in his "video interview"?

As I'm sure you are aware, sibling abuse does take place & if it were true then the child would need listened to by an adult who believed her.

If, as you say, it is lies, then shame on him for planting this seed in everyones mind

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Ulysees · 24/06/2007 22:59

oh it's definitely lies, he's tried similar before. yes he used leading questions and also mentioned a former conversation in the car, the judge was livid apparently. Now though he's making a fuss saying SS were at fault and haven't done their job properly.
If you knew the boy in question you'd know how he finds anything like this gross. Her ex is a sicko and control freak who is trying to win a game. Hopefully he won't.

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fireflyfairy2 · 24/06/2007 23:06

What age are the children involved?

I can't believe the man had the little girl taken away from her mother, what a bastard.

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Ulysees · 24/06/2007 23:09

bastard is too mild for him she's 5 and he's 9. They've had a really hard life, lots of shit happened, especially for the DS

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Ulysees · 25/06/2007 15:03

mate can't even let them play in the same bedroom at the moment. They were playing together with dd sitting outside his room and him in it
I saw mate today and she's in bits. I really feel it's going to come back to bit her ex in the rear.

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Ulysees · 25/06/2007 15:04

bite*

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Flower3554 · 25/06/2007 15:07

I think social services will be appalled at the video. He is surely not trained in interviewing children and in my humble opinion it's a form of abuse in itself.

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Ulysees · 25/06/2007 15:23

exactly, he's an absolute s*!t! The way he's treated her and the step son over the years I'm surprised he hasn't been strung up. Mate has bad depression and he's loving that. Really needling her.