Hi,
Namechanged for this one. It's going to be hard to write but I'll try keep it brief.
Me and DP been together 8 years, 2 primary aged DCs together. We have hit a wall. Our relationship is a mess and I'm devastated. It started after our second DC was born and we haven't been intimate for years.
I went through some pretty traumatic things and DP had to work away for a few years too and we just kind of drifted apart.
I became resentful and angry and although i never used to be, for the past two years I've felt insanely insecure and scared.
We've argued a lot and there have been too many times that we've argued when I've had too much to drink. I've said some vile things to him. The latest was last night and I just feel like the final nail might be in the coffin. I have been so nasty but I sit on my insecurities and resentment for weeks and it comes out eventually but not in a nice way.
Some of the things I've felt over the years is that he's neglected me emotionally. That he brushed me away until I wasn't confident enough to try and be intimate with him. That he doesn't remember the smallest detail I tell him yet he seems to always be glued to his phone. I feel unloved and taken for granted. But because I've argued and called him names it's as if it's all my fault. I don't think he wants to try anymore.
I don't want to argue with him anymore. I love him. I want our family to stay together and for us all to feel happy and secure. I'm so sad.
Any advice from anyone who has been there and managed to make their relationship what it once was again appreciated. Thanks
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wishpot · 05/12/2018 22:15
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