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Dating Thread 143 Can Anybody Find Meeeee Somebody to Love!

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DaffoDeffo Sat 01-Dec-18 16:10:20

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread.
11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

DaffoDeffo Sat 01-Dec-18 16:11:15

Just starting the thread off...

Who was it that hadn't slept with their iron for 3 months (sorry on phone so can't scroll!). I would be climbing the walls! Good luck for tonight!

DaffoDeffo Sat 01-Dec-18 16:13:40

ap69 that is a horrible thing for him to do but definitely don't think it's anything to do with you. He's a love bomb ghosting twat and nothing more to it than that.

Good luck for everyone with their dates this weekend!

leigh at least you started it and can snooze and unsnooze when you want. I am also hidden on tinder at the mo

likeridingabike Sat 01-Dec-18 16:13:41

Checking in, I have absolutely nothing to update 😕

wishywashy6 Sat 01-Dec-18 16:17:56

@Ap69 I never had an issue chatting with anyone on WA before meeting (was talking to my BF on there for about a month before we met!), can always block them if you get fed up of them!
The pics/ romantic bollocks/ pet name thing would have had my alarm bells ringing though!
Anyway, onwards and upwards! ☺️

DaffoDeffo Sat 01-Dec-18 16:25:10

molly the tinder app can be buggy. You need to close it then reopen it and the messages usually appear

MadCatEnthusiast Sat 01-Dec-18 16:39:39

Hi, just joining the thread! grin -waves-

I've been on bumble for a couple of weeks now but nothing has really happened

MollysGirl Sat 01-Dec-18 16:57:33

Argh now I’m locked into one chat

If I delete & re-install will I lose all my other chats????

scotgal2017 Sat 01-Dec-18 16:57:37

Just checking in for new thread!

TooOldForThis67 Sat 01-Dec-18 17:04:46

Daffo - loving the Meeeee in the title!

ceecee32 Sat 01-Dec-18 17:16:42

Hi everyone - new to this thread and after some advice (or just agreement with what I am thinking)

Joined OLD on and off over the years - gave up and had a sort of relationship with someone I met in real life. That has ended and he was OLD so I thought what was good for him and all that.
Finally got chatting to someone who looked OK and lived near me. He has been divorced for 12 years and lived alone since. I have been divorced and lived alone for longer so I thought we might have been on the same page.

Arranged to go for a drink today at 4pm. Got a text this morning saying that noon would be much better for him - he doesn't usually do 4 or 5 o'clock as he is usually pissed by then !!

Rearranged to meet next weekend for an lunchtime and since then I have given it some thought. If he cant be bothered to stay sober for a few hours then what is the point of meeting him at all.

There is a bit of me that says there is no harm and I might make a new friend but he certainly doesn't seem like relationship material. If I cancel now, would you say why? Or shall I go and see if we have a good afternoon and a laugh

wishywashy6 Sat 01-Dec-18 17:53:29

@ceecee32 oh wow at least he's honest I suppose! Does sound like a bit of a red flag tbh, I mean does that mean he's off his face by tea time every day? Or just on a weekend? Either way if he couldn't be bothered staying sober to meet you it doesn't make a great impression does it?

It's up to you though, if you think he maybe has some redeeming qualities it might be worth the meet just to judge better. It could have just been a poor attempt at humour on his part 🤷🏼‍♀️

wishywashy6 Sat 01-Dec-18 18:04:28

@ceecee32 meant to say also, you're not obliged to give any explanation if you do decide to cancel but if you want to then yes, I'd be honest about the fact he can't/ doesn't want to stay sober for a few hours and how you find that quite unappealing!

Chocolate123 Sat 01-Dec-18 18:05:29

@ceecee32 definitely a red flag sounds like a common thing with him. I personally wouldn't get involved and say politely thanks but no thanks

Koko12 Sat 01-Dec-18 18:09:28

ceecee common sense would say not to go but if it was me I know I probably would give him the benefit of doubt and go anyway just to see.Although every time I give people the benefit of doubt it comes back to bite me in the arse!

shitwithsugaron Sat 01-Dec-18 18:09:47

Checking in, fanny all to report but glad to have found you all grin

shitwithsugaron Sat 01-Dec-18 18:11:21

Ceecee I think I'd be knocking that one on the head before it even began, surely to god he can stay sober until 4pm!

chickenfanette Sat 01-Dec-18 18:15:04

Hi all, new to OLD and have found it a mixed experience so far! I do wonder what the matter is with some people - recently someone “favourited” me, I had a look at his profile and thought he looked quite nice so “favourited” him back, then when I went to message him found he’s blocked me confused - luckily I have a thick skin! grin The irony is his username referred to him being a genuine gentleman...

ceecee32 Sat 01-Dec-18 18:38:30

Thanks everyone - yes I think its a red flag that he cant stay sober enough to meet me. But - I also think that men on their own for a long time can get into the habit of going to the pub.
I am in two minds to be honest whether to meet him and just be prepared to meet a drunk and then at least I will definately know that he is yet another waste of space
At least I have a week to decide

likeridingabike Sat 01-Dec-18 18:47:44

Married man messaged me earlier, looking for "friends and fun" 🤮 there must be women who respond or presumably they wouldn't bother.

MadCatEnthusiast Sat 01-Dec-18 19:12:31

the phrase 'friends and fun' isn't entirely enticing confused

likeridingabike Sat 01-Dec-18 19:26:53

madcat Grim isn't it.

WaitingforMrHardy Sat 01-Dec-18 19:34:25

Off out tonight for a 3rd date with Mr E. I have engineered a visit to his blush in my defence I haven't had sex in a looooong time

DaffoDeffo Sat 01-Dec-18 19:48:14

molly don't delete it. Just close the app and reopen. If you're on an iPhone just swipe it up or an android just close the open window. Then I find when I reopen them I appear.

Date with MrCantRememberWhatICalledHim Lovely - lots to talk about BUT he was 2 stone heavier than pics. WHY DO MEN DO THIS! And even worse mid meal Mr Disappearing started messaging me argh!

Will probably see MrFattyBumBum again but not sure a relationship will come of it...

DaffoDeffo Sat 01-Dec-18 19:48:50

I appear gringrinI mean they (the messages) appear

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