I am absolutely broken and confused.
My DP of 5 years dumped me out of the blue a few weeks ago. He said it 'wasn't working' and I don't understand what he meant.
We were friends for years before we got together and had a wonderful (I thought) relationship. We have the same sense of humour, taste in music, outlook on life, taste in pretty much everything. We have a million in-jokes and deeply care for one another. We rarely argued and, when we did, worked through it in a adult fashion and made up quickly. I thought we were so, so happy.
And then bang. I'm dumped.
I've been struggling with that for a few weeks. Doing the usual heartbroken things - not eating or sleeping and crying pretty constantly. Not knowing where it went wrong.
And then - guess what? - he's seeing someone else. He says there was no overlap, but I don't believe that.
It doesn't really matter either way - the fact is that he has chosen someone else over me.
And I know it sounds arrogant, but I don't understand what someone else can give him that I can't. We are such a good match. It has totally destroyed my faith in everything I believed about me, him and our relationship and I'm grieving.
He says he still loves me. He has been on the phone crying about how much he misses me - yet he is sticking to his guns (before you say it - I have blocked him now - but we have the same mutual friends, so I saw him at a funeral yesterday and there are always going to be times where we see each other).
Our friends are as baffled as I am and are mostly calling him a fucking idiot. I believe some of them have said it to his face.
So what is all that about - and how the hell do I get over someone throwing away everything we had and replacing me before my side of the bed is even cold?!
I am scared I will never love anyone again the way I love him.
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brainache78 · 01/12/2018 11:15
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