I’m so upset and don’t don’t what to do right now. My fiancé and I have been together for just over 6 years, engaged for 18 months and getting married next year. He’s always been one to be a bit grumpy on occasion as has a stressful job but usually quickly snaps out of it when pointed out.
The last few months have been a totally escalated situation. He is constantly in a mood. I will often meet him after work to travel home together and I am greeted with a face like thunder and snippy one word answers or he just totally ignores my questions. At home when watching tv he is glued to both his work and personal phone and I feel like I’m sat talking to myself. He’ll often ask about something I was talking about 20mins before. He takes no I interest in wedding planning unless I practically force it on him and I’m the one doing everything. He says he doesn’t have time and is busy but would never miss going to the gym or any other hobby. We barely have sex, he barely even looks at me or acknowledges me and I feel invisible. Last night I met him after work and again he was in a foul mood. We were on public transport and I was trying to lighten the mood by being jokey but again face like a slapped arse. By the time we got home I asked him what his problem was and he was angry and said I had ‘embarrassed’ him on the way home...i was gobsmacked and told him he was being ridiculous. It was such an over reaction.
I have no idea what’s going on...he’s obsessed with work and can’t seem to tune it out/say no to his boss so don’t know if that’s the issue but it’s so unfair to take it out on me. I’ve done the going through his phone thing to see if there is someone else and can’t see anything. Also he really is at gym when he claims he is! I’m really starting to worry what life will be like if he stays like this and even worry that if we have kids after our wedding he will be the same towards them. I’ve never had any reason to doubt our relationship before and we’ve been solid so I just don’t know what to think.
Please help 😔
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So confused..fiancée has become a different person
Missfelipe · 16/11/2018 12:05
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