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Never getting married :(

(50 Posts)
Whyarealltheusernamestaken Fri 16-Nov-18 04:43:44

After 15 years, I give in, I want it so much but it’s never going to happen...

NotTheFordType Fri 16-Nov-18 04:50:30

Well if you're the higher earner then that's a sensible move.

Do you want to tell us some more about it?

Whyarealltheusernamestaken Fri 16-Nov-18 04:53:57

No he earns far more and wouldn’t be bothered if I gave up work

Notacluewhatthisis Fri 16-Nov-18 05:10:40

If it's so Important to you and it's not him, why did you stay?

Whyarealltheusernamestaken Fri 16-Nov-18 05:15:31

Because I love him, and I know he loves me

Notacluewhatthisis Fri 16-Nov-18 05:20:07

But then why not accept he doesn't want to get married?

Whyarealltheusernamestaken Fri 16-Nov-18 05:23:33

True, I should accept that thank you

ThumbWitchesAbroad Fri 16-Nov-18 05:24:00

Why is he so against it?

Whyarealltheusernamestaken Fri 16-Nov-18 05:25:56

I suppose I always wanted to call him husband, a pride thing maybe, my fault

Longdistance Fri 16-Nov-18 05:26:04

How old are you op? If you don’t mind me asking?

MissedTheBoatAgain Fri 16-Nov-18 05:26:44

Why is he so against it?

Because he earns more.

Whyarealltheusernamestaken Fri 16-Nov-18 05:27:20

He doesn’t do religion therefore marriage

Whyarealltheusernamestaken Fri 16-Nov-18 05:28:25

No seriously money isn’t a thing, he would give me everything

Whyarealltheusernamestaken Fri 16-Nov-18 05:29:08

It now sounds stupid I want more, like a silly ring...

MountainPeakGeek Fri 16-Nov-18 05:31:21

It won't be because he "doesn't do religion"... plenty of atheists get married.

NotTheFordType Fri 16-Nov-18 05:32:38

No seriously money isn’t a thing, he would give me everything

Ah well in that case get yourselves to a solicitor who can sort that for you in the absence of getting married.

...You know you can get married without having a wedding, right?

Whyarealltheusernamestaken Fri 16-Nov-18 05:35:09

It’s not going to happen, so i stay happy unmarried?

MountainPeakGeek Fri 16-Nov-18 05:39:58

Why does he not want to get married. Have you asked him outright? Does his answer sound genuine, or an excuse? Do you have any children with him?

Sorry for all the questions, but I get the impression that you want advice, and no one can give that without the full story.

Whyarealltheusernamestaken Fri 16-Nov-18 05:49:19

The full story isn’t for chat but thank you x

tildaMa Fri 16-Nov-18 05:56:05

How about you just talk to him about it?
You know, like adults do - say that it's important to you and see what he says.
Or are you just going to sit waiting for him to guess?

confussssed Fri 16-Nov-18 05:58:25

It won't be because he "doesn't do religion"... plenty of atheists get married.
he dosnt have to just because lots of people do

Whyarealltheusernamestaken Fri 16-Nov-18 05:58:40

Done that but will try yet again smile

Vitalogy Fri 16-Nov-18 05:59:13

Does he realise how upsetting this is for you.

Snitzelvoncrumb Fri 16-Nov-18 06:02:51

Sometimes you just have to accept peoples decisions. Would he consider a commitment ceremony type thing?
If not then it's ok, you are happy and that's what is important.
You could change your last name to his, or just buy yourself a beautiful ring to wear.
I definitely think next special birthday you should throw yourself a big party and buy a pretty dress. Don't miss out on feeling special for a day.

Whyarealltheusernamestaken Fri 16-Nov-18 06:03:23

No, but I joke about it too much....

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