I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and we have a 4 month old son together. I have a girl he used to see on Facebook and for a while I’d been seeing pictures of her little boy and had a horrible gut feeling as he was the spitting imagine of my partner. My partners mother used to always say she hated the girl then all of a sudden she kept commenting on pictures of the little boy saying how cute he was and how much she loved him etc, I thought this was very strange so I asked him last November if the child was his and he compleatly denied it. For a very long time I questioned him on this and he kept telling me the child wasn’t his. There was a picture posted on Facebook of the boy and his sister commented on it referring to him as “family” as you can imagine my heart conplestly sunk and when I asked him he still denied it. Two months ago my mum had been at her friends house and had heard from her friend that he had another child and she came home and told me and he still denied it. I then messaged his mum asking if the child was his and she said she’s not 100% sure and sent me the messages between them from last August telling her she had a grandson and that he had known for 2 months and was trying to make the situation go away by blocking her on everything. She said in the message she was with two guys round about the same time and she thought it was her boyfriends child and when the boy was born she worked out the dates the hospital gave her and she seen no resemblance so took a DNA test and it turns out her boyfriend wasn’t the dad so there’s only one other person it could be. Since August his mum and sister have been meeting up with her and the little boy and been sending him birthday/Christmas cards. He eventually admitted to finding out last June and said he never told me cause he didn’t believe it. He is yet to do a DNA test and still doesn’t pay her CSA money despite multiple letters being sent to his house requesting he does a DNA test. I still love him and have no idea what our future holds. At the moment I’m so hurt about the lies, I’m so hurt he’s got another son and I’m so hurt my baby has a brother. I have absolutely no idea what to do and he’s clearly not going to deal with it. Im so hurt that absolutely everyone knew for so long and never told me. I’ve not spoken to the girl about this but I know her very well and have her on Facebook. I just want evidence that the little boy is his so that he can’t keep denying it. I know my baby is still so little but I want to do right by him. I just don’t know if anyone has any advice on what to do?
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Thighofrelief ·
26/09/2018 01:36
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