I’m new to this site, but I’m so upset about something that happened yesterday and would love some impartial feedback. I’m sorry for the length of this post, but I’m trying not to drip feed.
I’ve been dating a man for a couple of weeks, things were going well and his words and actions led me to believe he really liked me. We get on ridiculously well, and have similar interests and goals. We’re both in our 30s, if that’s helpful.
On Saturday night we were in the middle of a conversation on Whatsapp, when it suddenly appeared that I was blocked. I figured he was on the underground or something and left it alone. Sunday morning I sent a message to confirm some plans we had for next week for my birthday (I needed to make reservations) and again it looked like I was blocked (messages not going through, parts of profile missing).
It remained like that all day so in the afternoon I messaged him on instagram and just mentioned that it looked like I was blocked on What’sApp. I know he read the message, but he never responded so of course I assumed he had blocked me on purpose. I sent another message saying I would respect that and not contact him again, but would appreciate it if he could at least let me know what I did wrong, because I was really confused.
Late in the evening I finally heard back from him on WhatsApp, which was apparently working again. He said he hadn’t blocked me and asked if I was okay. He then immediately went offline before I could respond. I sent a few messages saying I was better now that I wasn’t wondering what I did wrong, and explaining what was happening from my end on the app. I also apologized for thinking he had blocked me (but honestly, nothing else made sense).
He ignored my messages for 3 hours, and when he finally responded he was angry because I had messaged him “too much”. Honestly, there were about 5 messages, but they were all short. Just breaking up thoughts, instead of sending one long message. He messages the same way. And now he wants nothing to do with me.
I’m really hurt. I really like him, and I don’t really understand what I did wrong. He started a conversation with me and asked me specifically if I was okay, but then seemed to be so annoyed that I responded to the conversation he initiated. Was I just supposed to ignore him? I feel like he set me up for failure. Was this just a cowards way out of telling me he didn’t want to see me again? Was I really out of line? I’m so confused. Thanks for any insight.
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Miscommunication on WhatsApp...did I do something wrong?
Loncan · 17/09/2018 13:35
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