NCd
Posted elsewhere but was told that I would get a better response here
Long story short
I have had a medical condition my whole life which I am only realising now has had a major impact on my mental state.
Four years ago I was diagnosed with cancer nothing to do with first and it has put e close to the edge
My DH and I are either constantly arguing or not talking and it has become worse over the past year. I am depressed. I have had a mental assessment but my actual appointment isn’t until November
Anything physical he’s very supportive, anything mental he becomes cold and reacts totally differently.
We are at a point where some days we don’t even talk.
There have been a few times when I’ve mentioned meeting up for lunch, never happens but always comes from me.
He has a female colleague who was diagnosed with cancer a year after me that he used to manage. She still works there with a different team.
Please don’t judge I went through his phone. YesI know that was unreasonable on my part.
He has stayed in contact with her which I’m aware of but recently he met her for lunch.
Her message was that thanks for lunch and she’s so glad that someone understands what she is going through and that hopes NowWhat is feeling better etc
I am super hurt tide various reasons
- He didn’t tell me he was meeting her but I don’t think there’s anything romantic, but then can’t meet me for lunch.
- He’s telling her probably somethings that are personal to me. If he’s purely talking about his feelings as a partner fine but I doubt it.
- My main thing is this though. If he was meeting her and she was the partner of someone going through cancer and he was sympathising, fine. But he is probably talking to her like he understands when all the while at home it’s a totally different story.
I am so upset.
I can’t even say anything because he would know I went through his phone.