think I've made my mind up to end 10 year relationship... guess looking for reassurance even although common sense taking over. been a long history of his rants and rages, they last hours ... anything from 2 to around 7/8 hours, always late at night into next morning. He is beyond reasoning with, just rages and repeats it all over and over. it can be anything or nothing. I know that's not normal. he promises to stop. I've told him it is so destructive to a relationship, he agrees! then months, or it has been a year or more, yet again he explodes. he gets uptight over things wouldn't bother me. we have also had many good times together and although it is not a monthly occurrence when it happens it is unbearable, truly.
we both work and lead busy lives and he is constantly pestering over sex, counting when last did it, its been this long since etc., latest rant over lack of sex and does not get that makes it impossible. a mega turn off. to be honest it has declined no doubt and I know there are problems with us I just don't get his mechanical attitude to sex i.e. opportunity over desire. I need to feel loved, close and connected. none of the things we now are. i have given up really. it hurts though. am interested what others think... is it normal to be pestered so much over it...its like an obsession with him... its made it hard to show affection as he turns that sexual... so hard as been together so long. I think the trust not to hurt me has gone along with my respect. there a silly bit of me saying should i try harder, am i unreasonable. at the times he rants for hours he is like a little boy having mega strop/tantrum. I have forgiven him so many times. he wrecks me for days makes me feel so low. hate it. guess the writing is on the wall hey..... so hard to finally let go.
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after 10 yrs is splitting up the right decision? no kids. in 40's.
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Goldiee · 11/08/2018 22:23
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