Hi all,
I'm new to mumsnet but I hear you all give good advice, so here goes
I've been in a relationship with a lovely, caring guy for just over a year. He's okay in the bedroom (I've had better, I've had worse!) and is nice to look at. He's 30, I'm 24. He's basically been single, just dated briefly, since he was 24ish and I have pretty much been in relationships since I was 15. I don't mind being single, I am just a relationships kinda girl. Prefer to be with someone than sleeping around!
DP has always been a bit awkward about pda, and it feels like I am having to teach him everything. We have only just moved from cheek to lips kiss when we greet each other, though in our own space we have obvs slept together etc. We don't live together; both still living with our parents and saving separately for moving out.
I don't want to make him uncomfortable and sometimes it feels like he lacks some emotional intelligence . He stayed at mine last night, no cuddles etc, and planned to go home in the morning. I said I'd go to the station with him... and then this morning came.. He just got up out of my bed, got dressed, went to the bathroom and came back. I tried pulling him for a cuddle but he just tapped my hand away and said "come on, let's get ready to go"
There are several other instances of him perhaps just not reading the situation well..
I like his company but this has been such a slow build of a relationship that I wonder if I can only see him platonically.
I don't know what to think - he's so incredibly thoughtful and caring in other ways, I just worry that I am relying on an "i want to rip your clothes off" feeling eventually, hopefully arising..
This is a bit of a brain dump, so I'm sorry if it's not clear. I just feel a bit lost with this one!!
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