Namechanged because this is probably outing. Plus I don't usually post personal stuff like this, but got to vent!
Going in for an induction today, after having a complicated high risk pregnancy, and so angry with husband after a big argument yesterday that I can't even look at him without seething.
Lately he's been getting short tempered and having an attitude whenever I ask him to do anything around the house that should actually be coming out of him to do. Before i go any further, although he works hard at his job, he's currently on holiday and has a tendency to sit on his arse all day if i dont prompt him to do even the most basic of things around the house. When I do he turns into a stroppy teenager, and behaves as if he's doing me a big favour.
Also, before i go any further I've been coming and going to hospital a few times a week in the last few months either for appointments, scans or been kept in overnight because of the high risk pregnancy. Also my mum, who lives abroad, has come ver to help out shortly before the induction and to help once the baby arrives. And just as well, as she's been doing all the cooking and cleaning since she arrived. So husband has been pretty much just sleeping in until almost midday each day ever since, and running the odd errand here and there or putting the bin out and acting like he's so hard done to.
Yesterday I asked him if he could please finish a couple of small diy jobs, because they can't be done when the baby is here. Too noisy and are things that have to be working before we bring a baby home. Been asking him to do them for months but he's been putting it off. So he gets all angry, and starts shouting and acting like a total asshole. Totally out of proportion. I was left shaken and furious. And then went on about how i don't appreciate all the stuff he's been doing around the house lately. Erm, excuse me, "all that stuff" were mostly things in preparation for the arrival of his child. And the other stuff were normal things people do each day as home maintenance - put the bin out, wash the odd dish. I gave him a piece of my mind and told him to f*ck off. I was so angry with him I was left shaking for ages after, and have felt ill ever since.
He did apologise, but that was after I told him I have no need to be putting up with his immature stroppy behaviour. And that i will not be spoken to or treated in the way he did. So he can start changing his attitude and the way he behaves, not having my child growing up thinking women should accept being spoken to in such a way.
So instead of relaxing and getting much needed rest before today, been so worked up I haven't been able to sleep all night. He also seems to think induction is a walk in the park and that I'll be popping the baby out in a few hours time, just like that. So doubt he'll be much good as a birth partner. This is the man that had to rush to A&E after coming back from holiday because he thought he was dying and had to be waited on hand and foot. Turns out he had a 24 hour tummy bug.
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Getting an induction today and furious with DH
outingnamechange · 31/07/2018 07:13
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