I'm very unwell today with tonsillitis so feeling pretty crap anyway then this morning DH woke me up at 4 am because he couldn't sleep and started playing on his phone. I told him this was a horrible thing to do when I'm ill and he eventually went elsewhere.
Anyway, DH mentioned as I was just waking that he's flying tonight to visit MIL because there has been an emergency situation with her housing (she lives in an assisted living type place). From what I gather there was a water leak in the flat and it caused damaged, which she didn't pay for and now they're evicting her (she has plenty of money).
He then suggested she come and stay with us (which I know will be an undetermined amount of time, potentially a year) and DC (11 months) can sleep 'in the cupboard', by this he means the walk in wardrobe in our bedroom which is quite big but the notion of it naturally tipped me over the edge. He then suggested after seeing my dismay that he could just go in our room then. This is because we have a 2 bed flat so she would need the other room.
The thought of all this fills me with dread because she's renowned for being a difficult character. She regularly accuses people of stealing from her and other horrible things. I am the one who will have to entertain her every day and I don't drive which is a necessity were we are to get anywhere so we'll be stuck in the flat together. She will also spend all our money because DH will be too embarrassed to tell her we can't afford to pay for her meals out and shopping sprees.
Not only this but since I moved over here a month ago we've already moved house and state due to DH's job, which involved a weekend with family and then a week in a hotel before moving to yet another house with no furniture. I haven't slept on a proper bed in a month or had a sofa to sit on. My back is screwed. I made some lovely mum friends in the first place we lived and had to leave them, along with DC's crib which tore me apart.
Before coming here we were in another country and I came back to the UK to have my DC, returned there after 2 months then back to UK again for a visit and back there again for 3 months in which time I got quite depressed because I was alone and had no support network so I returned to the UK again. All this has been a lot of packing and moving, DC being without his dad and me a lone parent. Whilst in the UK I didn't have a place to live so house sat and therefore moved every month.
I feel like a terrible mum for this being the first year of DC's life and I am now ill (tonsillitis and recurring bladder infection) from stress. DC doesn't have all his toys here because we've had to leave things behind in various places and I feel dreadful about that. I just want some stability and I feel if his mum comes to stay it will just break me.
Am I horrible to say she can't come and they need to find her another assisted living place instead? I don't want to make DH choose between me and his mum but I don't think I can cope with it. I feel so guilty.
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Am I a bitch for not wanting MIL to stay?
Rollupandride · 20/07/2018 14:41
You're absolutely right not to want her to move in. Imagine moving your son to a cupboard, large or otherwise! Like a baby Harry Potter 
He knows how I feel about the moving as I've broken down a few times over it. I also broke down this morning telling him how bad I feel that dc doesn't have a proper room with children's things and how it broke my heart when I went to another mums house and saw all the kiddy things there.
We haven't had a proper chat about his mum today because he had to go to work.
Thing is she has other options and plenty of money to get somewhere else to live but she has a thing about not using her money and staying with relatives for long periods of time.
She once said that instead of actually having her own place she would go from child to child every 6 months. 
* She once said that instead of actually having her own place she would go from child to child every 6 months*
do not allow her to cross the threshold into your home. It will be much harder to get rid of her once she's moved in than it is to put your foot down now!
Thanks all we're going to get some bloody furniture today finally and some things for dc's room so I'll tell him categorically no and he should find her something else.
Thanks for the confidence and support, cheered me up a bit 
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