My husband left me for another woman 3months ago, I left with our child as he has no family and nowhere to go, although he pretty much lives with OW now. Our property is currently on the market but I'm now seriously thinking about buying him out.
He inherited the property from his parents in his teens and has lived there about 20years. Of course he has a lot of attachment to the property as his parents last days were there and there's just so many memories of them.
I have lived there for about 11years, initially just as room mates but then things developed. I recently spent over 10k renovating our property getting it ready for when our child was born. He's 18months now. It has my dream kitchen, bathroom and décor.
The main thing stopping me from buying him out is the memories, its so painful just being in there when I drop DC off. We fell in love, first kiss, he proposed in that property, its also where we came home after we were married, where we brought our child home to. I feel like if I live there i'll have constant reminders of everything I've lost/was taken away from me.
Does anyone have any advice on staying in the marital home and dealing with the painful reminders?
Another reason I'm thinking about buying him out is will I get a mortgage in the future bring a single parent with just a part time job?
Side note He wants me to buy him out. His reasons being: its stability for our son, the time and money I put into the property, he wont completely lose the property and probably the biggest one it'll ease his guilt
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Can I live with the memories?
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Lemoncup · 20/07/2018 09:45
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