Long time lurker, but this is my first post so please be gentle!
My boyfriend ended things with me about a month ago. The other day I found a DVD which I'd bought him before we split, and as I didn't have the receipt to return it, I decided to sent it to him along with a letter.
The letter was brief and I talked about whilst I was sad things had ended, that I accepted his decision and that I thought he was a great guy and I was glad that I was able to date him for a short while as he had made me really happy. I mentioned that I was hurt by the method of ending things (via text ), the fact that he didn't give me a proper reason for splitting up, and that I'd felt we'd had potential for a great future based on how well we'd got along.
He messaged me on WhatsApp today to say that whilst he'd like to thank me for the DVD he felt the letter showed two things - that I think he has poor judgement and that I think he's a liar. He's now blocked me on all forms of messaging.
Whilst I've clearly dodged a bullet, I'm struggling to get my head round how someone can react in that way. He has a background of bad anxiety and some mental health problems but I don't see how anything I said to him couldn't have triggered such a bad reaction. Nothing I put in the letter was a criticism of his judgement and at no point did I accuse him of being a liar.
For context, we have mutual friends and I know there's nobody else involved.
I've got no intention on contacting him again (I can't anyway!), but I'd be interested to know if any of you have experience something similar as it's really thrown me and I'm wondering if I ever knew him at all!
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Ex blocked me after I wrote to him - was it that bad?!
MontgomeryMoose · 18/07/2018 20:36
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