Combating Loneliness At Weekends
I don’t know if this is 100% appropriate for ‘Relationships’ but a few of us on another thread have been discussing the horrible loneliness that can invade (not exclusively at weekends of course) when you are single or not single but feeling that the rest of the world is enjoying themselves with families, friends or partners.
Of course some people love their own company, but others struggle. My child is an adult so my time is pretty much my own (apart from work), but I have just come out of a relationship and am finding it difficult to keep the sadness and anxiety at bay.
Other people are in relationships but not getting what they need in some way, and so feeling sad and / or lonely.
Could we use this thread for supporting people in that position? Virtually and perhaps meeting in ‘real life’?
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HopelessWithNumbers · 08/07/2018 18:54
This is a great idea, I'm glad you made this thread. I feel the loneliness most weekends and sometimes on a weeknight, particularly when the sun is shining and it feels as though I'm the only one enjoying it alone. I've been single for 3 years now. It's lonely. Especially now everyone around me is finally an 'us' rather than a 'me'. I feel as though I've lost the key, missed the memo, unable or unworthy to not be alone.
What have you done this weekend to combat the loneliness? Do you have any pets?
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Can I join please? Finding my feet post separation with three kids
I was a lone parent (from the beginning) and I used to find weekends very difficult. (This was almost 30 years ago so no MN 
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I used to push DD through town and feel so isolated and sad. I didn’t really find a way of dealing with it then. Weekdays were ok - toddler groups and going to people’s houses, but at weekends I really struggled.
Moving to London was something that made a huge difference (I lived in a small village on the outskirts of a small town until DD was 4). I met more people in similar situations.
It's a lovely idea for a thread and I'm in please!
I also live alone (grown up DC) haven't been in a relationship for a number of years and feel this, particularly at weekends.
I have a job, a few friends and family but ultimately do feel alone. Weekends are the worst.
In my case it can be self perpetuating too. Sometimes I've had an invitation to do something, but if the loneliness has its claws in me by then then I just can't face it if that makes sense.
It's funny because I really am one of those people who likes their own company and needs alone time. When I had a partner and DC at home I would crave it. I just feel like I've had too much of it now!
Today I've been home alone, I can hear neighbours having family time, BBQ's etc and it compounds what I feel.
I could go out and do something, visit friends, but they have DP's and family at home, it sometimes feels like if I don't tag onto someone else's life then I don't have one- that makes me sad! I don't have anyone who visits me at home so I can get kind of 'stuck in my own energy' if that makes sense. As a result the house is a real mess so I couldn't have anyone round if I wanted to!
I'm aware I sound really miserable- don't get me wrong, I function and I don't think people would necessarily know how I feel.
It's hard to describe how loneliness can feel but I do know it's insidious and hard to talk about. So thank you for starting this thread
I'm really sorry to hear about your relationship ending too OP, that's a tough grief process to go through and I'm not surprised you find it hard to keep the sadness and anxiety at bay. I think it's often underestimated how hard it is to go through. Be kind to yourself x
hello, id like to join
im fairly young (20s) and dont have any DC, but i live in a city i didnt grow up in and dont have any friends here.
i know people, theres one or two i chat to when i see and the rest id just wave/say hello but i do everything on my own. work, gym, shopping, eating out, staying home etc.
i try not to dwell on it but it does get to me. i cant phone up a girl friend and go shopping
or go for drinks. i dont have a gym buddy. i see everyone around me my age doing fun things and it makes me sad, especially in the sunny weather when you sit alone in the park. i didnt keep in touch with anyone from uni or people from previous jobs.
i do have a cat though, having a pet does help. i think part of my problem is i need to ~click~ with people. i couldnt be friends with just anyone for the sake of company, so ive ended up alone.
god that sounds depressing! im a surprisingly happy and chirpy person considering. ive found it helpful to have a few women who i look up to who are generally lone wolves but who rock it and dont let it hold them back.
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