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DH has not come home yet...

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HaveYouSeentheWritingontheWall Sat 07-Jul-18 05:06:41

He went to work at 6:30am yesterday, said he was going to have a drink after work and I've not heard from him or seen him since then, he finished work at 12:30.

He's not done this before, but he has recently been lying to me about who he has been out drinking with.

user1483387154 Sat 07-Jul-18 05:11:03

Have you phoned him?

BitOutOfPractice Sat 07-Jul-18 05:16:35

Oh goodness. Do you know who he went out with?

HaveYouSeentheWritingontheWall Sat 07-Jul-18 05:20:52

Yes I've tried calling him. Have also been texting him.

No I don't know who he went out with. I've recently found out that he has been lying to me about who he has been out drinking with.

StormcloakNord Sat 07-Jul-18 05:22:41

Are you worried for his safety or worried he's up to something untoward?

Emma198 Sat 07-Jul-18 05:23:17

How did you find out he was lying?

Cantsleeptooloud Sat 07-Jul-18 05:24:50

Assuming he's been out drinking and crashed out at someone's house. I would not let him back in until I'd found out exactly where he'd been.

I hate these situations because if the situation was reversed then my dh would have called police and hospitals etc. but if it's him I have to assume he's fallen asleep somewhere. One of our rules is that you always come home. It's such shitty, inconsiderate behaviour.

He'll show up later.

HaveYouSeentheWritingontheWall Sat 07-Jul-18 05:39:35

I found out about the lying because friends told me that they had seen him out drinking with a woman who used to be in our sports group (this woman called the group names after we lost a match and then left the group).

SippingSipsmith Sat 07-Jul-18 05:40:00

Are your phones synced to same computer? Can you use Find my iPhone app? Find out where he is

HaveYouSeentheWritingontheWall Sat 07-Jul-18 05:44:06

She goes to the same drinking establishment as DH and me, I avoid her because she always makes nasty comments about the other members of the sports group.

HaveYouSeentheWritingontheWall Sat 07-Jul-18 05:46:35

We both have different Android phones

HaveYouSeentheWritingontheWall Sat 07-Jul-18 05:49:21

I fear that our 28 year relationship has just smashed on to the rocks.

heartyrebel Sat 07-Jul-18 05:54:24

Doesn't look good under the circumstances

spacewitch99 Sat 07-Jul-18 05:55:23

That’s almost 24 hours he has been out of contact. I would be tempted to call 101. Did he definitely go to work yesterday? Has anyone seen him at all?

Mummyoflittledragon Sat 07-Jul-18 05:57:50

This is just far too long to be out. I really feel for you. flowers

Icecreamandpineapple Sat 07-Jul-18 06:08:37

Well it doesn't sound good if he's been lying to you, he's got some serious explaining to do when he comes back.
Also, I imagine he has I.d on him? so of he was involved in anything, such as an accident, you'd likely have been notified by now.

HaveYouSeentheWritingontheWall Sat 07-Jul-18 06:12:22

I presume he did actually go to work yesterday, he left home at the same time as usual in uniform. If he goes for a drink after work on a Friday he usually comes home briefly first but didn't do yesterday as there was no need for him to come home.

HaveYouSeentheWritingontheWall Sat 07-Jul-18 06:17:38

Yes he has his work ID on him and a works mobile phone as well as his own.

Emma198 Sat 07-Jul-18 06:20:33

and he hasn't answered any texts or calls at all?

BeachyUmbrella Sat 07-Jul-18 06:44:36

Would he go drinking in uniform, or did he take a change of clothes?

HaveYouSeentheWritingontheWall Sat 07-Jul-18 06:50:18

He's now sent a text saying that he bumped into an old friend and crashed out at his place.

Don't know whether I believe him or not, if he had never told lies then I wouldn't be doubting him. So even if it is the truth the trust is gone.

Emma198 Sat 07-Jul-18 06:52:14

what's your gut feeling?

HaveYouSeentheWritingontheWall Sat 07-Jul-18 07:02:21

General uniform is pretty casual (the job is generally quite messy) so he does have spare trousers and shirts that he keeps in work for management meetings so he could have used them or taken other spares, I don't know what he currently has left in work but I will know when he comes home.

HaveYouSeentheWritingontheWall Sat 07-Jul-18 07:11:29

This is the one person who he has never just 'bumped into' it's always been pre arranged meet ups, he's the one person I don't have contact details for. My gut feeling is that it is BS but is that just because I've been lied to for a long time?

Emma198 Sat 07-Jul-18 07:17:15

from what you've said it sounds like he might be sleeping with this woman, if he's lying to you about seeing her and now he's out all night.

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