I am struggling so much today.

[exhaustedpigeon12]

I miss my own dad (he died when I was younger)

I split from my partner last week (his choice) and not I genuinely think he’s having a break down but I can’t reach him. I miss his kids and had so much planned for today to make it special for him.

My son is refusing to call his dad (absent since I was pregnant)

I am so weary and I miss my ex so much. I’m angry at myself for not being kick ass and finding this so hard.

[DamsonOnThisDress]

I'm so sorry. You don't need to be kick-ass - no one could. Be kind to yourself, don't expect too much from yourself right now. It will get better but today is a hard one so take it easy and do something nice for yourself - talk to a friend, boxsets on the sofa, whatever... Kick ass will come in time but not today and that's ok. Take care.

[Slundle]

@DamsonOnThisDress I'm so sorry you feel so sad. Your feelings are perfectly normal given the day that's in it and the recent break-up. Life can be tough. I'm glad you reached out on this forum. It might be good to try to remember impermanence and change. While it's so difficult today, there will be better and brighter days. You'll get through this.

[exhaustedpigeon12]

I just feel sick and worn down. I’m trying to be there for my ex as he’s having a really rubbish time - but i need some one to be there for me. And then I feel ridiculous as I never needed anyone before, it was always just me and DS and it was fine. I could do it. Then feeling so alone is compounding me missing my own dad, who was brilliant.

I’ve given up on DS calling his dad, I’ve texted him to say happy Father’s Day instead and that the best I can do.

How do I make myself feel better apart from just time? I’m not naive, I’ve done this heartbreak thing before, but god - it all just relentlessly hurts.