My dh has got to work away for a month(poss longer) to another country and I've took it hard.We have a ds4 and are all v close.I know I should suck it up and im being ridiculous but im going to miss him so much.He's worked away before but not abroad,feel like a pathetic school girl getting upset.Any understanding words from people who have experienced partners working away would be v much appreciated.tia
So do you work? And will this still be OK when he's away. Think of it as about 0.1% of your life that he will be away. That's nothing. Is he doing this for money? As long as your relationship is stable and loving then you have nothing to worry about. You will miss him loads. But he will be back. Make the most of the time before he goes. You are not pathetic either. It's gonna be hard but you can and will, do it.
Thanks for replying.I can't fly out as no-one to have ds,yrs he's doing it for money and good money at that.Hes working away in Scotland at the mo but back fri pm to sun and that's just about doable.Im worried about ds missing him they are v close
See it as a time for you and your son to bond and do things together. Plan some special things for the weekends or go away and visit family. If your ds isn’t already in school or preschool, get some help during the week so you get a break.
My dh only works away for about a week at a time, but I had to be away for about 3 weeks once and my dh had a wonderful time with our dd. They really bonded and did lots of fun things and it was nice for us to have some time to ourselves as well as it’s easy to not appreciate each other when you see each other every day.
If you’re going to miss him I’d see that as a really good thing - it’s great to miss someone and look forward to seeing them again! I think it adds to a relationship and helps avoid being in too much of a rut. So try and embrace it as a positive - you get to relive some of the early on longing to see one another feeling - quite fun really!
My husband works a month on and a month off, so is basically away half the year. He is almost always out the country when he's working. He's done this since before both our children were born and it's our normality.
Just keep busy and make plans. See friends or family you haven't seen in a while. Pick out films or tv series you want to binge watch. Organise days out with your DS. It's only 4 weekends which isn't much when you are busy.
Ohhhhh think of the lovely evenings when your little boy is in bed and you can watch whatever you want on TV., catch up on box sets etc My DH has always worked away a lot, I have 3 DCs and although I miss him when he's away, I love having some me-time too. I think you'll enjoy it - make a plan for what you want to do, who you want to see, what you fancy watching or reading etc - the weeks will fly by.
My DP works abroad at sports events, he's just gone away for a six week stint. All I can advise you to do is make plenty of plans. I've got two long distance friends coming to stay separate weekends and my parents who live abroad are coming over for a week and a half. Every one of my weekends is booked up. My local friends are a great support too. Oh I make sure I enjoy binging on the shit TV that DP hates (thank god for Love Island, on every night!). It's honestly not too bad.
If he’s not in a crazily different time zone you can skype/face time him regularly As others have said - plan lots of activities for your weekends, do some really fun stuff with your DS. We make a point of speaking once a day (my DH is normally away during the week).