Hi. I need some help and hope that by asking here someone may have an answer. I'll try not to make it too long!
Mum is 80, Dad is 85. Dad has cancer and has had surgery but was told by consultant last month that he didn't need to see him any more as there wasn't anything further they could do. He was upset by this and seems to have rapidly gone down hill.
Mum has a heart problem (valve replacement years ago but is too old now to have another op.) She is his main carer eg washing, dressing, toilet accidents etc.
She had to go into hospital on Wednesday having suffered a heart attack, begged to be let home as worried about Dad. (My brother and I were with him but he took imodium and didn't wash which is ok for just a day).
Mum probably had the attack because she is finding it very difficult to wash him etc so carers are now going there tomorrow to wash him. Great. At least they're accepting some help.
Mum has been told that this care will be for 6 weeks and then they will have to sort out private care.
Is that correct? Dad is terminally ill. They are not wealthy by any means but will pay obviously as it's too much for Mum to do. Wondering about NHS continuing healthcare.
Thanks for reading. This is all so new and I want to do what is right for them.
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Elderly Parents and Care in their own home
Guardsman18 · 25/05/2018 17:06
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