After some advice please. My husband has alcohol issues. Has been technically dry I guess for sometime with the very occasional blip. However he has been substituting with paracetamol etc although I don't know scale I think it is more than I know. He had a blip March and then Tuesday I came home from work (he is part time so primary career 3 days a week) to find he had a drink whilst in sole charge. That was it - I now no longer feel comfortable leaving them in his care and I have told him to leave. He has found a room and he says he will be moving out over the weekend.
I have dealt with the practicalities and got a childminder sorted etc to cover days he used to take to school and booked holiday Club for the summer. I am also lucky to have a flexible job so can wfh to be there for them .
I just don't know what to expect from the dd (6&10)
The 10yo has been spending a lot of time in her room since the March incident and I'm not sure if it her age or she can sense the tension in the house - I suspect it may be the latter. I think it will hit the 6yo hardest as she is more of a daddy's girl than the older one just due to being at home with him more than the older one was at a young age.
I was planning to say he has moved out for a while to stay with a friend but I don't want them to expect that he will be coming back soon. I am sure I will get pressure from his family if he is clean for a couple of months to allow him home but our relationship isn't great anyway after 7 years of clean but never quite clean. So irrelevant Of what happens with the alcohol I cannot see us getting back. I am also worried this will tip him over the edge completely and he will end up with no job and nowhere to stay and how I handle that and the pressure I expect I will get from everyone.
I have supportive friends as they believe I am making right decision.
Sorry for the essay!
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What to expect from children in time after marriage breakup
bollocksitshappenedagain · 25/05/2018 07:41
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