Question: how do you forgive?

user301204 · 2018-05-21 21:20:21

I'm wondering how to forgive my DH. He's done some things that I just can't move past, even though I'd like to. I think I'm past it all and it just rears its head up and we're back to square one. So in general terms, and regardless of what a person has done, how do you forgive and move on? Is it something they have to do? Something I have to do? Has anybody managed it and can give any advice? Accepting it has happened and can't be changed, and understanding why that person acted the way they did, must be part of it right? But also remorse, and trusting the person won't do it again is also important I guess.

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Hi all, and thanks to those who posted offering help and support so far. The OP has some privacy concerns around this thread so we've agreed to take it down now.