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How do I stop myself being so lusty and looking desperate?!

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WeepingButterfli · 24/04/2018 17:02

I've been dating a guy I met on OLD for three months. Due to both having children and full time jobs, plus living an hour away, we see each other about once a week. A couple of weeks ago we slept together Wink so only twice now. But presumably due to hormones and a lot of attraction I have for him I really want to leap into bed with him much more Blush I have to resist the urge to message him suggesting more dates as I know he's not got time atm.

How do I calm it down? We get on well, we're romantic, go for meals hold hands etc but I'm worried my lust for him could overspill and put him off by appearing over keen and desperate...do I just need a bucket of water thrown over me? Grin

He knows I like him a lot...

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Creasey31 · 24/04/2018 20:34

😂! Maybe don’t overthink it, just enjoy the time you have together and then more dates will happen naturally! Sounds like your having lots of fun though which is great! Good luck x

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WeepingButterfli · 24/04/2018 21:34

Thanks Grin it's really hard not to get all keen, I really think that's off putting for the other person...i will play it cool...as I can Grin

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UkPod · 24/04/2018 21:39

As a bloke, a woman being keen on the sex side of things early on isn't anywhere near as bad as being overkeen from a "new girlfriend, let's take photos up mountains and meet my parents" type deal, especially at this fledgling stage.

However be wary that it may turn into more of a "FWB" type of affair from his POV if he associates you with the bedroom more than anything else, so yeah I get where you're coming from!

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LoveforPGTipsMonkey · 25/04/2018 00:33

let off steam by exercising? Grin
But honestly, it's a nice problem to have, OP!

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SoapOnARoap · 25/04/2018 07:55

I agree with UkPod

Taking countless selfies at tourist attractions for social media, referring to someone as “my man” after 3 dates & insisting they meet your parents early are far more desperate than meeting a new bf/gf with a high sex drive.

You’re over thinking it, go for it & enjoy the today. This is the fun bit!

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