My partners ex seems to show up wherever i am most recently last week. She didnt do or say anything but i know she followed me in , i was with my 3 year old. She was standing right behind me and my child with her baby in tow then when i saw her she moved off . This has happened once or twice before
She has a restraining order against my partner not me as before they split she alleged that he harassed her by sending text messages and he was convicted. Since then she has repeatedly gone into his workplace ( a major supermarket) although the police have warned her to stop as she could be done for harrassment herself or he could get his restraining order revoked but she continued to show up even though there was a closer supermarket nearer to her of the same name until he left and found something else
She is unaware i know her address but i googled it and sent her a letter asking her to stop harassing me. In it i detailed how she stood behind me then said she was nothing special to look at and because i was upset said i dont fancy women and gave her my bra size as it seemed she wanted to know because i felt followed. I then said in the letter i have written childish words because her behaviour was childish and warned if she stood behind me like that again i will report her to the police. I did also say that although it isnt my business that she had cheated on her ex ( my partner as she had another man's baby 4 months after they split) and said i was confused as to her folowing me as she is still with her new partner and assumed she had moved on
Isaid in the letter that i wish her no animosity or harm, that i just wamt to get on in life and do not wish to have a feud with her or her family and asked her not to respond to my letter. I told her i am an educated person and do not regard myself as a bad person nor have i sent the letter with an evil heart and wished her well.
Is it illegal to send her a letter like that? The letter is from me to her and my partner is unaware ive sent it to her and its all about me saying what i saud to her so there would be no breach of the restraining order if i am correct
I'm worried she is now going to make up lies claiming i am outside her property now she knows i know her address as she tried this with my partner and it was thrown out of court. He was with his mother at the time
Im just worried she is going to make up lies against me being outside her house and i will get arrested . Or she will fake threatning letters from me. Far fetched i know but i am a worrier. I could always report her 4 the above if she tries anything funny
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