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Toxic sister and bullying

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lolaflores · 23/04/2018 12:13

I am going NC with my family. Specifically younger sister who practises excluding me. I am bipolar with all the goes along with it. In the past, her excluding has caused massive distress and impacted my MH to suicidal levels.
However, her latest bout of it...which is petty really. I wasn't invited to her birthday party despite pics of it up on all Social Media. All my other family in attendance but somehow my invitation was lost in the post. I spoke to my mother about it and she concocted some story and told me it wasn't a problem.
It was my DN's birthday and my DD's birthday this week. There had been an arrangement for my DD to go to DN's virthday tea on Sunday...only to find out that the party fwas on Saturday. Not Sunday. We only discovered this when my DH texted to find out what time Sunday and was told it was that afteroon, my mother and sister were there...
So.
That is basically that. End of all of it. But I can't work out why.
She thanked me for my birthday present...then had a party I was delibaretly excluded from.
She thanked my DH for present for DN, then deliberately excluded us all. Again, my mother did a spot of gaslighting insisting everyone kenw it was Saturday.
I don't know why and even though I know, on a rational level, I may never know why...I can't keep the thoughts, the hurt, the bewilderment from going on in my head.
I have tried to call my CMHT, I feel so awful. I can't stop crying and there is just such a ball of anger and pain inside me.
This is the desired effect on her behalf but why would you make someone suffer like that? And do it so deliberately.
There is no sense to be made of it but that adds to the confusion.
Any expert opinion gladly accepted.
I keep thinking what I have done, but I know in my ehart and sould I have done nothing. None of my family wants to discuss it, so I think I must be imagining it except my DH says it did. They will avoid this. Avoid me. My daughters. We are lepers but we haven't done anything.

OP posts:
Theluggagerules · 23/04/2018 18:43

I don't have any experience to help you but just wanted to say that you will be happier leaving them out of your life. Your mum sounds as bad as your sister and you would be better off concentrating on your MH and your own family

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