We have been married for 4 years now and have two twin boys, the issue is that we have sex about once or twice a year and for the last 6 to 8 months it has really begun to affect me.
Prior to marriage it was regular (normally weekly) but since then it went from that to once every six months to almost yearly. It started when she told me that she didn't appreciate getting groped (after 6 months of marriage). I understand that nobody has the right to sexually assault or harass anyone but I really didn't believe that 'cupping her chest' was anything but that. (I've read the threads on here about this subject and it wasn't a grab or squeeze etc).
We have boys, something that we both wanted and I love them to bits. I believed that staying together regardless of my own well being was the right thing to do. Now... I accept that this probably isn't the best for them as I'm living a lie and hardly setting a great example.... living in unhappiness is fine if there is children.
In December I got chatting to a woman through work (not a colleague) and we started meeting once a week for lunch or going to a gallery or a day out. In March I had to work away, she said she had a few days off and asked if she could come along. A week later my wife found out and I confessed everything.... the affair and my general unhappiness.
I ended the affair and there was an immediate 'over compensation' by my wife but after 2 weeks everything headed slowly back to how it was. 6 weeks on, I feel that I'm trapped all over again.
I told my Dad but he felt he couldn't really help although getting it off my chest felt like a huge relief. My unexplained migraines have gone completely!
Don't really know why I've typed all this..... Perhaps just to hear how it looks from a stranger's point of view.
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Albertobotswana1977 · 22/04/2018 18:59
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