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Cancelled date 30 minutes before..feel like crying

265 replies

Poppa445 · 22/04/2018 13:26

Been texting for 3 weeks ...
Arranged to meet today for a drink at quarter 2.
I got the train to his city (50 min train)
Literally got off the train and he has text
“My dad has been taken in hospital,can we re arrange?”
£18 train and 50 min journey
Feel like crying

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Cricrichan · 22/04/2018 13:27

I'm.sorry but if it's true then completely.understandable. If true then when you arrange another date, get him to come to.your town

LemonadePockets · 22/04/2018 13:27

Didn’t want to read and run. I just hope he’s genuine in his reason as you’ve travelled. Next time make him come to you x

Alienspaceship · 22/04/2018 13:28

Wanker. Do not reply. Block. Take yourself to a nice cafe/pub and enjoy a couple of hours to yourself.

Pigpigpig · 22/04/2018 13:29

unhelpful but in future make sure it’s the guy that travels. Flowers do some shopping and get a nice coffee somewhere with what you would hace spent.

QueenofSerene · 22/04/2018 13:29

Well that sucks, can you message him back and say something like 'Well I'm at XYZ, do you want to meet to talk about it?'

Shitshitshitty · 22/04/2018 13:31

It's always hospital isn't it?
Scammers and time wasters love that line.

Then when you voice your annoyance they turn it round so you're the bad guy because theybcant help being in hospital! when you know damn well they are at home watching Tipping Point

Block and never talk again.

Rudgie47 · 22/04/2018 13:33

His is lying,block and have nothing further to do with them. Just go round the shops or for a few drinks/coffees whatever by yourself. You might meet someone better round town anyway.

JesusTapdancingChrist · 22/04/2018 13:33

I guarantee you there's absolutely nothing wrong with his dad Hmm. He just lost interest/chickened out.

Do not reply. Block his number. Go home. Be sad/pissed off about your wasted time and money but be glad that you didn't waste any more time on a flakey twunt.

And don't travel to meet a first date again.

Storm4star · 22/04/2018 13:33

I’m really sorry this has happened to you, its shit.

If you feel you want to give him another chance (we don’t know him so we don’t know if it’s a lie or the truth) no more texting. Too many people just see it as words on a screen with no human being behind them. That’s why they find it so easy to then casually text “sorry can’t make it”.

I agree with lemonade, if you are going to give him one more chance then he can travel to you next time.

Shitshitshitty · 22/04/2018 13:34

PS. I had one of these. A woman who messed me about for about 6 weeks over meeting. Last straw was me sat on a bus on way to a pub to meet her and suddenly her mum ' was taken into hospital' Hmm (this is after 10 other excuses of previous meetings she arranged then cancelled)

I told her what for and never spoke to her again.

4 weeks later I met my now GF of a year.
So just move on.

Poppa445 · 22/04/2018 13:50

He’s just text saying
Actually I need to get my daughter some new shoes for tomorrow so I will have to pop into town.
See you in 15 mins ???
Eh ??

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Bluntness100 · 22/04/2018 13:51

Tell him to fuck off.

colditz · 22/04/2018 13:53

Um, so he takes his school aged daughter on dates?

RED FLAG RED FLAG

colditz · 22/04/2018 13:54

i'D BE ASKING WHERE HIS WIFE WAS

RLOU88 · 22/04/2018 13:54

The audacity Shock yes please tell him to kindly fuck off

privateporcupine · 22/04/2018 13:55

“Nah, count me out”.

Luckyme2 · 22/04/2018 13:55

was about to say it was probably a lie but that last text actually makes it sound like it could have been a genuine reason?

Luckyme2 · 22/04/2018 13:56

Ha ha reading the other posts though I'm probably just naive! So may be best not to listen to me OP!

minimalpatience · 22/04/2018 13:57

Probably had 2 dates lined up and he didn't mean to send you the initial cancellation text.

SingSongSing · 22/04/2018 13:58

Don't reply.

Block.

What an idiot.

re. dating in future. Suggest you always say you will call or text on the day to confirm. Sometimes people are idiots like that chap. Sometimes people have shaky self-esteem and can't go through with it but you will need to know in advance that they can defo make it.

Best of luck.

PeonyTruffle · 22/04/2018 14:01

OP, I really hope you told him to poke it

You’re better than this x

privateporcupine · 22/04/2018 14:01

I’d have given him the benefit of the doubt until the one about the shoes.

What had you replied in between his messages?

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Cricrichan · 22/04/2018 14:04

Wtf? Definitely lying then!

Poppa445 · 22/04/2018 14:04

I just said ok we can re arrange and now he has text saying I’m 5 mins away
Might as well meet him and spend an hour with him

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Lanie233 · 22/04/2018 14:04

Alarm bells

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