So dh and I seperated over a year ago then decided to work things out 6 months ago.
We have been dating on and off not much time due to limited childcare and he often stays over midweek 2 nights and is around most weekends.
He sent me off on a nice little weekend holiday recently when I returned there where a few issues with childcare i.e he said he'd watch kids while I was away then rang me part way through to say he had to work so was sending them to his mates house. I get seperation anxiety and this is the first time ive been away from them overnight in 10yrs and it just pissd me off after all the planning to ensure he would be free to mind yhem.
We had a converation about how him not keeping his word disapointed me. When I came back we agreed to spend day together as a family then at the last minute he decided to go help his brother with the garden after id sat around all morning with kids waiting for him to get up.
We again had a conversation about him saying one thing and doing another and how it made me feel like I didnt matter. The conversations were all initiated by me each time hed try and dismiss what I said as nonsense.
I called him yesterday he said he couldnt talk but would call me back then didnt. This is a pattern of behaviour he had when we lived together that did my head in and he now knows it having discussed it over three days a lot and him saying he will do what he says he will.
So I left a message baisically saying im sick of being messed about and Im done.
Be honest am I just being a drama queen about this. I feel like its important but his attitude is just that im making mountains out of molehills. Where as to me it feels like he comes and goes as he pleases without feeling I have a say in things if he wants to stay over or do something he does if he doesnt hes off. If I have stuff to do and hint that he should go, he starts grumbeling that Im kicking him out.
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Am I being a drama queen
Nellia · 21/04/2018 07:26
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