It's a long one I'm afraid. I met someone on Tinder 3 years ago and we immediately hit it off. We slept with each other that night and for a year after but he was just coming out of a marriage and I was traumatised from my DV marriage, so FWB suited us both.
I met someone else after a year and got into a proper relationship with him (although he turned out to be a twat) so obviously stopped sleeping with FWB. FWB did say after I'd been seeing twat guy for 3 months 'I can't give you 100% but I can give you 50% be with me' and a couple of drunken 'I love you' via WhatsApp. But I didn't want 50% I wanted 100% so stuck with twat. FWB eventually got with his friend of 20 years. We remained friends (we like the same music and go to the same gigs) but didn't meet up much individually as it all felt a bit awkward. FWB best friend then committed suicide a year ago and he leaned heavily on me for emotional support (my job is related to this).
A month ago I finally managed to pluck up the courage to end it with twat, encouraged by FWB friend who saw how unhappy I was.
Anyway all fine until tonight when out of the blue I get a question from him and he's clearly trashed (spoke to him earlier about a gig as he's friends with a famous band and he was drinking then). The question was 'Do you want me to fuck you again? Because I want to.'
I immediately replied 'You will regret that in the morning, delete it' and he said 'Yes or no?'
I've not replied. WTAF am I going to do? He's emotional and drunk because it's the anniversary, he's my friend and I don't want him out of my life BUT I don't want to be that single woman who is in contact with someone else's boyfriend in an inappropriate way. If she reads that she would (very rightly) go mental. I don't know his gf and we have never met so she doesn't know what kind of person I am.
Am I going to have to stop contact? It's such bad timing because he needs my friendship. But I can't do this to another woman. It feels yuck. And he's my only other lone parent friend so we use each other's friendship in that capacity because we are often home alone with our DC's so talk to each other as a bit of companionship. Fucking hell. Men. I already know I guess...what a shit situation. Help!
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How the hell am I going to sort this out with my friend/ex FWB?
FWBcomplexity · 18/04/2018 22:33
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