Checking in to the new thread, thanks vet
silver - I agree. It's nice to have a couple of options, but you'd have to be fucking insane to fly to another country for a first date. It sounds like someone trying to woo you with exoticness. And I'm not even sure if that's a word.
Also, it sounds like a perfect setup for a human trafficking ring.
The first one also sounds massively suspect. While this may sound harsh (and I seem to be sounding harsh recently, sorry) both of these men seem to be in it for sex, and the second possibly wants to sell you into slavery afterwards.
That's probably not the case of course. The first one needing to get a hotel probably has the perfectly innocent explanation that he's an alcoholic who can't manage a 45 minute drive without a drink and needs to have a nearby bed after telling you he's a dom.
The second one had a first phone call with you, sent you a knobshot and wants to meet you in another country.
Sorry, you need to raise your standards. A lot. If you're looking for a quick shag and possibly indentured servitude then go for it, but don't assume this is normal acceptable behaviour from them because it's the only behaviour you've seen.