Basically DP and I have been together a couple of years. This time last year we split for a short while and I went to stay at my mums as we were going through a difficult time. After about a month we got back together and I came back to our house and everything was fine.
This is the bad part now. I have feelings for somebody else who was introduced to me through DP. Have only met them a few times but after the recent meeting cannot get them out of my head. Feel like i can’t see them again because it’s hurting me and I feel fucking awful for my DP as I am feeling like this.
Will this feeling pass? Am I just doing a normal thing by having feelings for someone else? Or is it worse? I am half fantasising a life with them but they live overseas and nothing has happened at all and I don’t think it ever would. I want to be fully in love with my partner. He has been working long hours and we’ve had financial strain and other things have gone on that’s made us distant and I feel that I am compensating for the lack of “love” between us at the minute by developing feelings for the first person I meet and get along with. I know full well it would never happen but the thought of not seeing them again and also the thought of not being with my partner is seriously distressing me. I’m thinking about it constantly I feel sick I feel like a horrible selfish person (I know I am) and I’m beginning to wonder whether this has happened because me and DP arent meant to be. I have totally gone off the idea of children and marriage and feel like I shouldn’t be with him but he adores me and it hurts me to think of what we used to be like and we aren’t like that any more.
Has anyone got any advice? Should I leave and just be alone or try and make it work with DP and try and get our life back? Will this feeling about the other person pass?
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Am I in love with someone else or will it pass?
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Horribleperson11 · 23/03/2018 21:47
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