NC for this. 6wk old baby having issues with BF - have cracked/infected nipples. Have held the baby all day but I have been in pain all day with shooting pains in nipple and just wanted to put steroid cream on the weeping sores so had to put baby down while I did it. She cried for about 5/10 mins when DH came in from the spare bedroom picks her up and started berating me for not holding her and letting her cry. Told him I needed to get things done then I'll grab her. She was fed, had a clean nappy and just had a bit of wind that normally gets itself up after I lay her flat. Nothing was wrong with her. Also around 1am she becomes fussy and I normally rock her to soothe her but again was in so much pain I had to put the cream on.
He gets angry tells me to hold her and I said no, put her down she's fine I'll take her when I'm done. He throws her on to the bed then throws my phone across the room. Proceeds to blame me for not expressing so I wouldn't get the nipple pain, gets an inch away from my face telling me I'm a shit mum for letting her cry, that he needs to sleep he has work, I never let our eldest cry so why am I damaging our youngest by letting her cry.
Long story short I didn't engage and told him to put her on the bed - he threw my phone again 2 more times while saying he doesn't give a shit he'll throw it til it cracks and kicked a box of nappies, chucked my clothes on the floor and tried to physically put the baby on me while I was trying to get dressed, insulted my job prospects and told me I can't cope with more than one child.
Worst thing is I bet tomorrow he will wake up and think he was in the right for "protecting" the baby. It didn't do her any harm and I wasn't putting her in any danger but he won't get it.
Baby is fine now, she fell asleep after being in the sling while I cleaned up downstairs. I just don't know what to do. First time it's happened with kids, and I won't take job stress as an excuse for his behaviour. I just know I won't be able to get him to understand nothing wrong happened?! He's stubborn. Even if he apologises I don't think I would forgive him.
I know full well this is abusive behaviour, and he's not like this as a person but seriously what gives him the right to act the way he did? What do you even do when it's a one off like this?
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DH threw my phone at the wall
2amdilemma · 23/03/2018 03:01
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