I would like some advice. This will be a long post about my MIL but to understand the history. I will try and keep it short but if I had to tell you everything then I would need about 2 years of posts 3 times each day. LOL
So I am going to start at with I have been married to my husband for 4 years and together for about 6 years. We have 2 children My daughter 7 was adopted by my husband and now is legally his. (AWESOME ) She is such an energetic and lovable child. Our son is turning 2 in April he is the perfect example of a little boy we can’t even sit for 5 minutes due to the fact that he is always trying to “Damage” himself or his sister. LOL
1-So here comes the full story about my MIL. Ever since my husband placed this engagement ring onto my finger she has tried everything to break me completely. The day before we had the wedding she said to me that a person should not get married for money. My mother looked at her and said well we all know that your son doesn’t have money so this must be love. MIL stormed off and on the wedding day she sat crying for 2 hours in front of our guests because my husband confronted her because she started caring away all juice and champagne on the tables the exact time was 18:00 about right after we had our meal.
2-When I got pregnant with my son we had a high rate for Down syndrome that they picked up in my blood tests. She was visiting us when I received the phone call, I told my husband and started to cry. While searching the internet on what a Amniocentesis really was. She jumped up from the couch and said that the baby would die and there is nothing we can do. At that moment I had a cup of tea in my hands and I emotionally had a really bad outburst and threw the cup at the wall and walked away. This was not my finest moment but all I could see in front of me at that moment was someone who trying to wish the baby inside of me dead. I apologised she called my SIL and the entire family telling them that I was acting like a child and that I threw a tantrum. Till this day she has not apologized.
3- When my son was born I went into labour at 34 weeks, the doctor explained to me that if I were to tear 5 more centimetres that I would have died of a unitary rupture. She started laughing and walked out. My son was in the neonatal ward for 3 weeks and during that time she was living with me my husband was out of town for work and my mother stays about 12hours away from me so she was my only option due to the fact that I could not drive. We went to visit my son and she made a remark that she hopes his brains aren’t all messed up because he is so early. When my son came home my daughter was struggling to adjust to the new baby that just interrupted her whole life so she was a little emotional one morning afraid that I would not come and get her from school because of the new baby. My MIL had to drop her off and while I was comforting her my MIL ripped her from my arms and started yelling at her and said that she must walk to school because she will not be dropping her off because she hates her. I confronted her and said that she is 5 and you are 60 you should stop acting like a child.
OK I am almost done…
4- This is one of the biggest ones about a month ago she came to visit again. She was in my bedroom busy sorting/packing my husband cupboard when I got home from dropping off the kids at school. I have previously spoken to her regarding not going into my bedroom as I feel that my bedroom is my personal space and that should be respected. I asked her to please leave my bedroom and that I do not like it that she is in there as I told her before. She stormed off and not even 10 minutes after I received a phone call from my husband yelling at me that his mother wants to leave and that I am the worst person in the world. I was in total shock. I went to look for her to tell her once again I am sorry that I asked you to leave my bedroom because according to my husband I am a phyco and have issues. She then out of nowhere started screaming at the top of her lungs telling me that her son doesn’t deserve me that I am white trash that I will never be anything. I then calmly took off my wedding ring and placed it on the counter and said that she got what she wanted and I left.
I switched off my phone the entire day and just drove around town. I picked up my kids from school and dropped them off at aftercare and my husband was waiting outside. He said that how dare I take off my wedding and throw it at his mother. My mouth hung open and I just started crying again I told him exactly what happened and he asked me to go home and apologize to his mom once again I stood my ground and did not go until she left. And during this time my SIL wrote me a couple of mean texts. She has not apologized yet.
So our little family is going away on a trip this Easter weekend and guess who decided to crash it? I haven’t spoken to her since the fight and my husband does not realize how much it has affected me emotionally. I have told him how I feel but I feel that all these things keep happening and I am the only one caring the hurt. He doesn’t understand what I am going through and I have decided to see a lawyer and get a divorce as I cannot continue going through this pain. My decision hasn’t just been placed on my MIL but also on my marriage with my husband. That I will talk about on a later stage.
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MIL is breaking me
Jenny221 · 22/03/2018 12:01
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