His Mother

[AnotherMIL]

I’ve been together with my partner for a while however I am having problems with his mother.

She has two sons (both in their 40s) and expects them to spend a lot of time with her (think dinner one weeknight and all weekend plus other drop ins).

DP is on annual leave this week and I need to use up the last of my holidays so tookma half day. We were planning on going for a walk so I met him at his mother’s house.

When I went in, she pretty much ignored me. When my partner said he had to call into the post office and asked me if I had money, before I could answer, she said ‘I’ve got money, then turned to me and said, it’s my job as a mother to give him money not you’.

You might think I’m overreacting on the basis of this example but it just becomes so wearing.

I’m not sure how to deal with this. Should I ignore or confront.

I’ve tried talking to DP but he is still attached to the apron strings. He is even going on holiday with them this year and I’m not invited.

[Hairgician]

Get out now. Things won't change.

[SeaEagleFeather]

Back away fast. You'll always be the extra suitcase that's in the way.

[SeaEagleFeather]

If he's in his 40's, unless you're his first gf this situation will have arisen again and again and again and his mother's always won. You won't be any different from the other gfs.

[BrioLover]

RUN

[MrsExpo]

I assume their DF isn’t around? I think you need to get out now (I hope you don’t live together ....)

[AnotherMIL]

His DF is still alive. He is lovely and makes me feel welcome. I think he feels a bit sorry for me.

I’ve tried really hard to fit into the family. She always makes me feel like I’m not good enough for her son. If he holds my hand she always asks him to do something to him away from me.

[BuffyTheMLMHunter]

He's in his 40s and still attached to the apron strings!?

A relationship is teamwork, sounds like he's not doing his bit. If he won't fight your corner now and stands up to his mother, he never will. You need to decide if you can live with that.

[SeaEagleFeather]

I’ve tried really hard to fit into the family.

It isn't about you and what you try to do. It's about her - and nothing you do will be good enough.

If you get pregnant you will have a whole other world of trouble becuase she may want a lot of input into the baby and your partner will let her have it - he will choose his mother over you any day, just as he does now.

[Aprilmightmemynewname]

The thing is your dp doesn't have a problem with having his cord still attached....
Walk away before you are truly miserable.

[Kikashi]

As others have send - RUN - don't look back. You will only have pain, drama and dejection from this situation.

[ShatnersWig]

Get out now. Seriously. This is another that falls into my "amazed you actually need to ask anyone" file.

[AnnaMagnani]

Get out. Make it clear to him the reason you are leaving is his mother.

[hellsbellsmelons]

Run away from this mummy's boy now.
Things will never change.
You see it time and again on here.
THE HILLS ARE THAT WAY >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>