I met a man on OLD about three weeks ago. We’ve had three dates, the last one with him coming over to mine and staying the night, although we haven’t done more than kiss.
My dilemma is this: he is absolutely great in every way, if I described my ideal man he would be it. He is extremely kind and caring, has close relationships with his friends and family, very intelligent and funny, has a great job in a creative field that is well paid and he adores so he is happy and fulfilled in himself, not needy or unhappy or unbalanced. We share the same values and interests. He thinks I’m beautiful, fancies me and is affectionate. I really respect, like and admire him and have loads of fun when I’m with him.
But I don’t 100% fancy him. It’s so annoying! I’m not completely turned off by him so maybe this is something that could grow? Or am I fooling myself? By three dates should I know whether or not I’m ever going to fancy him? I’ve asked that we take things slowly physically which he’s fine with, so I don’t have to rush into a decision but I guess I’m asking two things: is it possible to start, and keep fancying someone you don’t fancy after three dates? And if you never fancy them is it still a wise option to carry on with the relationship if everything else is ideal? We’re both early 40s if that makes a difference.
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Would you carry on in this relationship
Starchime · 20/03/2018 21:20
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