DH is a contractor and he’s been offered a new contract after a couple of fallow months. He was tempted to see if he could have a last-ditch go for one that paid much more but involved being in a different city three nights a week, so he asked me and I said I’d rather he didn’t go for it. There were other contracts similar to this that he did apply for when there was nothing else in sight, but none of those went to interviews. I was prepared to accept it under those circumstances, but I’m not so keen as he has something more local in the bag. I do worry about the possibility of him taking one in future as it may be necessary at some point. It’s not the not being around I mind so much, as we have an au pair and I can manage the domestic side – more the being around, IYSWIM.
We both have experience of our dads working away from home and things being tense when they were back. I have experience from a period when I had a couple of commitments after work each week and DH was going to the gym a lot in the evening and he seemed to be in a bad mood more often during the period, so I wondered it was maybe connected to being a bit like ships passing in the night. I’m concerned working away would be like that but more so and whether he might be exhausted and just not want to do anything at the weekend.
What have other people’s experience been of partners working away? Any tips for making it work? Don’t think it’ll happen this time, but it might have to be a consideration another time for us.
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Echobelly · 20/03/2018 14:07
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