Met a guy just before Christmas. First date lovely? 2nd date flowers....3rd date he cooked and told me to relax. 4th date I cooked and we have had a few more dates since (mainly at his) which brings me here....
He has a few issues at work and also with his ex regarding contact (none of my business as its only been a couple of months of dating). I am all for supporting your partner through bad/tough times but it seems to be topic of conversation on every date (his house), and it is mentioned most days via text/conversation. Obviously not the whole conversation but it's mentioned.
I am a student nurse in my final year and aswell as working and looking after my 2 dc's (with NO support from their father), I'm exhausted and very very poor most of the time. One comment was 'I'm used to dating rich women' another being 'why don't you work more if money is tight'. Apparently this is all banter. Nobody gets his sense of humour. He honestly does say lovely things too.....
Date before last, I picked him up from a friend's 45 mins away then back to his a further 20 mins. Stopped at the shop and bought my own wine. Made to watch a documentary on a sat night. Which is absolutely fine, but not my thing. The last date I cooked, bought the wine, washed the dishes, made breakfast in bed, washed up. Rubbed his feet (he asked), went off to work and he went to watch the rugby all day with friends.
Anyway....Im completely at a point where he has pushed my boundaries. He said at the beginning, you work so hard, I don't know how you do it, you need looking after. Tgere are other things he says which makes me question things...
The point is....I don't feel looked after. Am I expecting too much? I don't even know what to expect, I have been single so long.
I have had no desire to see him since sat or even speak to him. He has text me today to say 'when can I see you?' I felt exhausted just reading that. I just thought dating someone would feel special and I would use that time to get away from the stresses of life in general.
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Dating feels exhausting! Or maybe I have watched too many Disney films.....
Bubblesandcake · 19/03/2018 18:32
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