So, I'm 65, in reasonable health for my age, but with a few issues. My husband is younger and very robust and hearty. His mother is 92 and in excellent health, lives alone (widow) in a lovely house. Husband's sister lives about a 20 minute walk away, doesn't drive.
We live a 6 hour drive away from MIL. We go to see her as often as we can, but I've begun to dread the drive as I am totally shattered when we arrive at her house, and when we arrive back home after the return journey.
We've not seen her since Christmas, but then neither has SIL. We are getting lots of phone calls from MIL asking when we are coming to see her. We asked if she knew why SIL wasn't coming round more often, but she 'doesn't like' to ask her, as she doesn't want to upset her.
Should I just let DH go and visit her on his own? Or should I suck it up and go too? Honestly I practically fall out of the car when we arrive, even though we have stops for loo visits and thing to eat on the way.
I know she is old, but she goes off striding along the street ahead of us leaving me feeling like it's ME who's 92 and she's 65.
Oh I don't know why I'm rambling, and I know I don't HAVE to go, but then I feel bad about poor husband having to do the journey by himself. I'm a selfish old bat.
Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody
Relationships
Am I a selfish DIL? I think I am ...
Tighnabruaich · 17/03/2018 18:26
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.