Just this really. I met a guy a couple of weeks ago on POF. We seemed to have very good convo which naturally flowed. We both said we wanted to settle down and was basically looking for a life partner. We exchanged numbers and spoke on whatsapp very often. We spoke on the phone and video chat and we just seemed to have a strong connection. This was confirmed when we met in person. We went on two dates, both of which went very well and felt like we had known each other for ages. We had a lot of fun and lots of banter. I genuinely felt like I hadn't had an instant connection with anyone the way I had with him.
He looked in my eyes and told me that he only wanted to get to know me (he was also talking to 2 other women on POF) and said that he could see us being together in the future and claimed that he was no longer talking to the other women. We ended up sleeping together on the second date. Everything seemed fine the next day and left each other voice notes saying how we really enjoyed the weekend and how we would not want anything to mess up the connection we had.
On Monday I left him a voice note asking if he wanted to go cinema over the weekend. Later on that same day I sent him a message about general stuff. He listened to the voice note and read the messages but not replied. I questioned it to myself but as he was at work I just assumed he was busy. Cut a long story short he has been ignoring my messages and phone calls ever since.
I hardly know this guy but I feel extremely hurt. I think it was evil of him to look me in my eyes and feed me a whole lot of bullshit just to sleep with me when he could have got it from someone else who was specifically after that. He will not give me an explanation as to why he has been ignoring me out of the blue. He does a radio show on weekends and when listening today he mentioned that he went and saw the film that I asked him if he wanted to go and see with me. This really hit a nerve.
He was obviously just after sex but I don't understand why this is affecting me a lot more than it should. Especially when I barely know this guy! Someone please put some sense into me!
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Why am I feeling this hurt over a guy I barely know?
SassyS89 · 24/02/2018 15:39
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He’s not made a fool of you OP, cut yourself some slack 
You had 2 dates & weren’t compatible, dust yourself down & move on
Some people are dicks. It can be really heart breaking.
Hope you are ok
You did use condoms though didn’t you?
It sounds as if he’s got his act down to a fine art so god knows where he’s been!
I’m sorry man, try put it behind you the best you can
The last two I met from PoF had photos at least 15-20 years old on their profile! Almost unrecognisable in the flesh ffs. One you would cross the road to avoid. Its only a bit worrying there are so many liars and creepy weirdos out there. Still, I suppose the worst ones are the ones who "appear" normal, so reel you in. Remember to keep your guard up, whilst being pleasant and so forth. Your spidey senses will be clearer as time goes on. And if you don't meet anyone, well worse things have happened, and a lot better ones 
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