Feeling alone in our relationship

[Shaz1986]

Been with my partner for 14 years we have five children together, youngest being 4weeks, we don't get on anymore found out he was texting an ex girlfriend in early pregnancy, also he's always putting me down and makes me feel like I'm walking o. Egg shalls all the time, he always says he's had enough and I'm going to be on my own with the kids, I literally do everything, not really had chance to recover from my csection, I feel he's only still in the family home because he hasn't got anywhere to go and no income, I work full time, he don't like me to do anything even with my family he always seems to have something to say,
I feel so lost, and he tends to blame everything on me,

[adayatthebeach]

I’m sorry your going through this you sound so sad.your still recovering from having a baby and I’m sure quite tired. Does he help with the children? You both are under stress. I wish I was of more help. Do you have family near? Or friends?

[Shaz1986]

He did but now just moans about having to help with kids,
I'm currently sleeping downstairs with baby just because I feel it's easier this way,
I feel we just don't get on anymore,
I do have family near but my mum always working and the rest I don't really see,

[silkpyjamasallday]

Oh OP that doesn't sound like a nice situation at all, if he isn't working why isn't he helping with the DC more? You have a tiny baby and have just had major surgery and he is being an arse, he is just an extra dependent for you to support, could you cope on your own if you were to leave him? It doesn't sound as if he does anything but put more pressure on you and drains you of your resources both emotional and financial. Him isolating you from your family is a red flag for abusive behaviour escalating. He has no right to blame you for his own inadequacies, it sounds as if you are the one doing everything while he just moans and whines. So sorry you're going through this OP, in your position I would take him up on his offer to leave you and the children alone, at least then you can claim child support from him, even a small amount would be better than nothing, and him no longer being in the family home would save you money on top.

[Angelf1sh]

I your position I too would show him the door. He provides no positive role in your life and is consistently negative. You’d be much happier with him gone.

[Shaz1986]

I have told him this time and time again, he's not tied down to us, I always put up with him because of the kids, I don't feel happy anymore and fed up with it all, I have asked him to leave but he refuses to do so, we rent our property and its joint responsibility that that's the problem I will have all the kids with me and have been told I would make myself homeless, and he was told that he will get no help what so ever, this is why he's sticking around not because he wants to but I feel it's because he has too, he's 11 years older then me and I feel the age gap may now be a problem, he don't like me working had my hours. Changed at work because of this now he's moaning about the new too, I seem to always be in the wrong no matter what I do, and. Now he tells me to sort my hormones out, and that I have postnatal depression, when I. Feel mentally fine, he just thinks he knows everything and he's right all the time 👎