I'm 41, I'd like a boyfriend with a view to a long term relationship.
I always wanted a partner & children but developed serious MH problems in my early 30s and although I'd still love to have a baby I accept that probably won't happen.
3 years ago I joined Tinder & met a nice man who I dated but he wasn't right for me. I then gave up dating for nearly 3 years due to weight gain, more depression etc etc.
Recently I met a man at work who liked me a lot, we dated then I discovered he's married!! So that finished.
I've lost weight, and I'm fairly well now so I've joined Tinder again; I kept it to a 50 mile radius with an age range of 30 - 49.
I will try POF too as it's free, but can't afford a paid site.
I've matched with a lot of men & received lots of messages mainly from men who are looking for a girlfriend rather than just a hook up.
The problem is that I'm so nervous my stomach is actually upset today.
I hate the whole process of messaging & going on dates.
I can fake confidence on a date luckily but just messaging the men back is stressing me out.
If I don't message back fast enough they seem to get a bit unpleasant, also some want me to chat on WhatsApp & I don't know how it works so they get arsey about that.
I've got schizo affective disorder which doesn't help my confidence as I can get paranoid really easily.
How can I become more confident at dating?? I'd still rather meet a man in RL eg at work or the gym, but it's unlikely to happen.
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EbonyJade · 21/02/2018 21:39
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