found i was pregnant today. 5 weeks.
been with this guy , who is 20, for 2 years now. we are long distance. or were i guess.
he still lives with his mum and sister and his dad passed away just over a year ago.
we skyped and he told me he didn't want it, he said that i should get an abortion. I told him i personally did not want an abortion but he kept pushing it and pushing it and said he was going to tell his mother about my pregnancy, i knew she wouldn't be happy about it, but i did not expect anything like this.
I should start by saying, i have very little to no family or support network, only my mother, so it was important to me to have his family supporting me at this time even if it wasnt the choice they would have made. He skypes me once he has been done talking to her.
I ask what she said, he said, "she thinks you need to get rid of it"
he then goes on to tell me he doesn't want a future with me, and doesnt see one, he isn't in love with me and breaks up with me and says he wants nothing to do with the baby.
I told my mother about this, who then rang his mother, who, and i kid you not, was under the impression that we were using contraception and the "condom split", even though that was NOT what happened
at all. she told my mother that i was trying to "trap" him, and trying to "ruin" his life, and i was "stupid" if i didn't have an abortion, and that they had enough to deal with without all of this.
They seemed to encourage and pander to the idea that it was all my fault and not his, that i was the one to blame and that he was right to have nothing to do with the baby, and that i should have "thought about having safe sex" if i didn't want to have an abortion.
I take full responsibility for what i did as I know that i hold accountability, but I am very scared, i am 18 years old, no family, no boyfriend. Just me and this thing growing.
I dont know what to do now. I feel like my reasons for not wanting an abortion are in some way invalid even though it is my body and my choice. I just, i see the changes my body is going through, i feel the changes, and i know its because a life is starting to grow inside me, even though it is painful i think is beautiful and i just, i could not live with myself knowing i had put that to an end.
I do not know what to do now.
I feel like i have lost everything.
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18 and pregnant, boyfriend left me and family disowned me
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jhyugtf · 19/02/2018 23:03
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