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Oneandoneontheway Wed 14-Feb-18 23:04:34

Found 2 cards last night, both blank in my husbands laptop bag. He was away with work today on site. I have been given one card and just checked the bag now & the other card is no longer there. Paranoia or reason to be suspicious?!?!!!!

esk1mo Wed 14-Feb-18 23:05:36

very suspicious

Justmuddlingalong Wed 14-Feb-18 23:06:45

Very, very suspicious.

Puttheknifedown Wed 14-Feb-18 23:09:01

For me it's not suspicious. I often buy more than one card as I can't decide and either tell myself I'll use both or save one for next year. Could it be that?

Oneandoneontheway Wed 14-Feb-18 23:13:24

But if it was buying 2 and not sure which to give, then why give me the less funny/cute one and then remove the other from his bag. I saw them around 11pm last night & he left for London about 5.30 this morning. So i think it must have been a card for someone else. Uggg

frutti Wed 14-Feb-18 23:13:26

Maybe just make a joke and say oh so who’s the other card for and see what he says?
I have bought two for my h before.
I saw one and thought it was hilarious then thought hmm maybe this ones nicer so I bought that. Could be anything. I’d just ask him.

Oneandoneontheway Wed 14-Feb-18 23:17:41

i should ask him , but don't think i would get an honest answer. He will either laugh or have a go at me. But we either way i would end up feeling unsure. I have had a few occasions over the past 12 months of feeling unsure, but he keeps on saying that he wouldn't have time for anyone else !. But i think that if your having an affair then you cam always make time

Only1scoop Wed 14-Feb-18 23:18:03

Yes I'd be suspicious and I'd ask him face to face

LadyGAgain Wed 14-Feb-18 23:19:33

Your gut instinct is a powerful thing. What does it tell you?

Catkins0877 Wed 14-Feb-18 23:21:32

I've bought two before when i can't make my mind upsmile just ask him.

KungFuEric Wed 14-Feb-18 23:21:44

Ive known people give a work mate one as 'banter' because they have a bromance or something,

If you're already suspicious though then it's not great.

Oneandoneontheway Wed 14-Feb-18 23:21:46

50/50 tbh, that's what makes me nervous, would feel stronger if i was more certain one way or the other

Plentyoffishnets Wed 14-Feb-18 23:23:13

i hate to ask one but how sure are you thay he was going to work today?

Justmuddlingalong Wed 14-Feb-18 23:24:44

So he would laugh or have a go at you rather than give you an explanation or reassurance? So you won't ask him about it?

Oneandoneontheway Wed 14-Feb-18 23:27:30

I actually thought about ringing his office today to see if they had him off on holiday. But didn't, im probably being really unfair. But hate this and hate that i feel i cant ask him

Worieddd Wed 14-Feb-18 23:30:02

I’d be doing some further digging

Oneandoneontheway Wed 14-Feb-18 23:34:25

Further digging how though??

Dancingfairy Wed 14-Feb-18 23:38:55

This is a man we are talking about I'm sorry to steroetype but I can't see many men not being able to decide between two as they like both.

mehhh Wed 14-Feb-18 23:40:10

Very suspicious!

Bettybettybettybetty Wed 14-Feb-18 23:41:35

I do this with birthday cards- buy one, lose it so buy another. Could be innocent but if he is likely to turn it on you, there are far bigger issues brewing.

KungFuEric Wed 14-Feb-18 23:43:41

Digging as in can you access his phone or bank statements?

6demandingchildren Wed 14-Feb-18 23:43:53

My husband also brought 2 cards, one for me and one for his friend to give to his wife, maybe your DH did the same?

MrsElvis Wed 14-Feb-18 23:48:11

Could it be for his mum?

But imo you already know. You know!

Worieddd Wed 14-Feb-18 23:51:35

Yes you need to look through his phone when he gets home
Bank accounts
Check his draws, behind his clothes in wardrobe, is there an office at home, receipts?

Cricrichan Thu 15-Feb-18 00:39:14

It doesn't sound good if he gave you the less funny/cute one. The busiest men in the world have found time to have affairs so that isn't a reason.

But if you ask him he could make up any excuse (though it may be true), so unless he confesses you won't be sure and if he's cheating, he'll cover his tracks more now.

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