I’ve posted about my sister before. She has some kind of undiagnosed mental condition, and is horrible to be around. I’ve just spent 2 nights in a very nice hotel with her and my mum for my mums birthday and she’s managed to make it awful, and I can’t wait to get away.
I saw them at Christmas too, and again, it was awful. My mum guilt tripped yesterday about ‘nobody supporting her’ with my sister’s abusiveness - the fact is that until my mum forces her to move out, no one can help her. I have sent her info on resources etc but have also recently made it clear - when it was suggested that rather than Christmas we have a family intervention - that I simply do not want to be involved. She’s my sibling, not my child.
I’m done, I’ve got nothing left to give my sister. I could deal with her being in some way intellectually disabled if she was a nice person, but she’s really not. I’m sorry to say it, but she’s astonishingly selfish, completely self obsessed and vile about anyone who doesn’t pander to her demands - she keeps saying things about how horrible my husband is, for example - she attributes anything I do that she doesn’t like, generally distancing myself from her, telling her ‘no’ when she’s demanded something, as his influence poisoning me against her.
I just can’t cope with it any more, it’s so exhausting. I try and try, I think ‘maybe it won’t be so bad this time and my mum wants me there’ so I go, and then I end up spending hundreds of pounds to frankly wish I was anywhere else.
I need to go LC, but my mum will guilt trip and try and involve me in the future again. How do I do it subtly and sensibly, to give myself some peace?
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How to go LC with my sister without my mum guilt tripping
pandarific · 28/01/2018 11:14
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